Tired, depressed & hating my life!!!

Hi Klr2014,

Welcome to the depression forum... Being a mother, housekeeper, provider, sister and all that takes a lot of energy and can be a thankless job. It might be time to set some rules around the house...

I am sorry for your son's struggles, I imagine he has some help with this??? Therapy, school counselor??? It is going to be hard, but with help, you will be able to handle it I am sure... I know things seem difficult now, but they will get better. You are trying, that is what matters... I feel you could find a sitter, maybe put an ad in the paper, or on face book or something??? I don't mean to make everything sound like a question... Just throwing some things out there.

Do you go to any counseling? I feel that would be a good place to start. I think by changing the way you think about things, in time, they will be easier. Picking up after other people, well, we all have to do that at one time or another, but some rules on picking up after ourselves I think would help. Kids, well, I don't have to tell you... That is an unwritten statement by itself...

Does it put stress having your sister there? Just wondering if that could be making things more difficult? Sometimes it can be better. And extra pair of eyes and ears where the kids are concerned, but other times it can make for a lack of privacy. I think it depends on the type of person you are. I, myself, don't do good with other people living in my house. I am too private...

I don't know if there are answers as to why we have difficult children or difficult situations. All I can say is that difficult times builds character. We learn, we grow. No regrets... Just experience.

I hope that your surgery in June goes well for you. I think that it will make a huge difference in the way that you feel in general and about yourself. I wish you well with it. Just remember healing time can be slow. And sometimes people suffer a little depression after a major surgery. If this happens, you will know why... Other than that, I think you will be happy with this.

I hope you stop hating your life. We have a thread called "Depression Resources" or something similar. It is at the top of the page. There are sites, numbers, names of books and other information if you are interested. Moodgym and mindfulness.org are really good and may help you. Other than that, keep posting, there will be others on soon, but on occasions the weekends can be slow. So keep checking back.

I Hope your day gets better. Try to remember the beautiful person you are. Try not to be hard on yourself. All in all, you have a beautiful life with a beautiful family. Find the gratification in it...

Hugs, Karen...

welcome to the forum.

I feel bad for your depression.

Have you tried couples counseling? There must be a reason both of you have stayed together.

The dark emotions you are feeling now, could be horomonal, could be something from your past the class is knocking at. Could be the accumilation of stress from just not being happy and living a lie.

We can talk about you know what, here. However, that is not the answer. review our resource thread at the top of the forum there are many links and books for you to review, numbers to write down if you need them.

Reach out for help, your college, might even have a wellness center. We all need help sometime.

Peace
Trina

i am sending, many many healing thoughts to you and your son.

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~~Dixie