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Posted 2/26/2015 7:33 PM (GMT 0)
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I am depressed big time. My son moved in with his love interest a week ago. It's hard on me because we were always together for 26yrs. Now he's gone! I am so depressed, and I am in PMS as well. 1 week until 'that time' I am a 48yr old woman, soon to be 49, so it might be depression from Perimenopause. My husband has a migraine headache that gets worse and worse. I'm at the end of my rope, and it feels like a noose. Are there any tricks for handling DD (Deep Depression)?
Posted 2/26/2015 9:33 PM (GMT 0)
Sounds like you might need something to fill the void of your son moving out. Is there anything that you would be interested in doing that you haven't been able to? Something you can do now>? Crafts? Art? Music>? maybe going back to school?

You know things will get better when the pms is over. If that helps??? That is something to look forward to I guess.

I find mindfulness helps me. Keeps me from my thoughts going all over the place. I try to walk daily when I can, that helps a lot. Keeping my mind busy. Doing constructive things.

I hope you feel better and your husband too. I hope his headache goes away. Keep posting, it does help to know you aren't alone. And welcome to the forum!!!

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 2/26/2015 10:27 PM (GMT 0)
I'm sorry. I feel like a total loser. My husband is somewhat better, but now but now he is picking on me and making me feel so bad about myself. I am also co-dependent. Thanks for your suggestions. A hobbie would help, I am sure.
Posted 2/27/2015 12:07 AM (GMT 0)
You are not a loser. Don't even say that. You are probably a lot more sensitive because you are depressed. Then things bother a person more. There is a book called "co-dependent no more" I read it years ago, but can't remember the author. It would probably help you. Don't let anybody control your moods. Be happy no matter what. Takes practice, but if you put your mind to it, it can be done. Keep hanging in there.

Make sure you pick a hobby that you really enjoy a lot. It will take your mind off of things and it is a good way to help yourself feel better.

Do you go to counseling? Many of us find that it really helps a lot too.

I hope you feel better soon.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 2/27/2015 12:22 AM (GMT 0)
Codepenent No more was written by Melody Beattie, I highly recommend that book too. It's a really good book and there is even a work book that goes along with it if you want to buy it. They have them both on Amazon or you could probably find the book at your local library.
Posted 2/27/2015 12:24 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you AngelLisa...
Posted 2/27/2015 4:48 PM (GMT 0)
Yes, I recommend that book also.

I also think talking to your GYN about horomones and what you can take to balance them out would be helpful. Tell the doc about the depression and how it makes you feel.

I would also tell you husband that his comments do not help. You support him in his pain, he can support you in your depression.

Peace
Trina
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