HealingWell
Search Close Search
☰

Hello...

Support Forums
>
Depression
✚ New Topic ✚ Reply
❬ ❬ Previous Thread |Next Thread ❭ ❭
Posted 2/26/2015 9:49 PM (GMT 0)
Hello. My name is Karen, 44 and from the UK. I have depression.

I work at my local superstore, and try to help my husband run his business, but everything I do for him, it's wrong.

He shouts at me, belittles me, calls me stupid. I am so confused - it feels like that I am standing in the middle of a busy motorway, all the traffic racing past me.

I recently got a parking ticket. He shouts at me about it. He is now threatening to throw me out because I cannot 'sort myself out'.

Sometimes, I don't want to be here. I lock myself away in the toilet for at least half an hour a few times a day - I feel safe in there.

At work, I smile at the customers, but deep down, I want to tell them that I have depression and just to talk to me about anything - the price of dog food, the weather, how you like your eggs in the morning - is this 'normal' thinking?

I JUST NEED A HUG!!

Thank you for reading my post
Posted 2/26/2015 11:06 PM (GMT 0)
Hi! Sorry you're feeling down like this :( I can't really speak from experience as I haven't been in your situation, but if I was you I'd talk to your husband! Does he know you have depression? (may seem crazy to ask but it's kept secret a lot of the time)
I would talk to him and confront him about the way he treats you, nobody deserves to be treated that way ever! If you can confide in a coworker and you feel comfortable with them I think you should tell them about your depression.
I know I felt a huge weight off my chest when I told my best friend about it, it gave me the boost I need to get the help I needed!

If you aren't on medication or have never seen a doctor about it I suggest you do, it helps to talk about it, even write it down if you can't say it out loud, your doctor will help you : )

Hope this helped somewhat! *hug*
Posted 2/27/2015 12:23 AM (GMT 0)
Hi kazbag,

You don't deserve to be treated that way. Do you see a counselor? They can help a lot with self esteem. You need to know you are worth a lot more and you deserve to be treated well. I am sorry for what you are going through. Can you discuss this with your husband? Know that verbal abuse is just as bad a physical abuse. I would try to find a counselor, or therapist, and start doing things to help you feel better about yourself.

If you feel you want to talk to people, just casual conversation, often just telling them to have a good day or ask them how they are. I myself don't usually tell strangers about my depression, I would rather talk to somebody I can trust such as my therapist. Or a good friend.

I hope that things get better for you soon. Keep posting.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 2/27/2015 4:52 PM (GMT 0)
well the first brave step was posting here. Good for you.

Next is facing your husband. How dare he talk to you like that!

You are a human being, you do not deserve this. What would you tell a friend if they came to you about their husband doing the same thing? Well, do the same for yourself!

Sounds like he is just a bully and if you stand up to him and may just back down.

I wish you peace and strength.
Trina
Posted 2/27/2015 6:55 PM (GMT 0)
(((Karen))) cyber hugs to you! I'm glad you found us here. As for the husband, I have no idea what kind of business he has but, remember, he needs help with it! That should bring him down a notch! When I would be at a new job, I used to 'beat myself up' with high expectations and had to learn to remind myself that this was new and I needed time to learn. Perhaps remind him that the business is his, his idea, his passion, and that you are just trying to help with 'limited experience'. That might help. You are NOT stupid. We all need to 'sort ourselves out'. I hope you can find someone, along with us, to share your thoughts with. "Talk therapy" is excellent!
✚ New Topic ✚ Reply