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Posted 7/7/2015 9:20 PM (GMT 0)
I've heard this before. Never really tried it but feel desperate
I'm relapsing again. Been on this forum before and got better. On Effexor 225 just increased to 300 but still not sure it's the answer. Going to see psychiatrist next week to see what the best approach is

I'm so upset. I'm a full time mom with a 4 year old. I have so much at stake. My husband is supportive but super busy with work and being more stressed out by my condition. I've been trying to downplay how I'm really feeling. I don't have much support. No family nearby and limited friends who would understand and they are all busy lately

What can you do when you have little to no energy and just want to sleep and have to take care of a kid and household. How do you cope in the meantime. I have so many thoughts racing through my mind as to what I have to accomplish yet I feel paralyzed to do anything.

How do you cope and would it work to just fake it as much as possible??

Thanks in advance
Posted 7/7/2015 9:36 PM (GMT 0)
Welcome to the forum.

You may need a combo of meds, such a additional script for limictal or abilify. Many of us take combos, to help.

Also check out www.mindful.org for some coping skills. They do wonders along with the meds.

Tough with a active tot around. But you can do this. We are here to listen and support. Glad you are seeing a Psych doc, that should help.

Keep posting here, many people will chime in and give you support.

Peace and strength
Trina
Posted 7/8/2015 3:36 PM (GMT 0)
Nikki ~ girl

You are in a great place to get encouragement and some helpful direction. You have made a great start by recognizing you need to get back on your medicine due to relapsing. Each of our brain chemistry is unique; and the med's help; but as benotafraid mentioned you may need something more or even different. I suggest that you keep notes of your symptoms and have them at hand when you see your doctor next.
In the meantime...I know the challenge you have with a four year old (boy?). I did not seek treatment for my depression and anxiety until my oldest was 17 years old and my youngest 9 years old. Needless to say it was all very overwhelming. Plus I too did not have a family support system. Sometimes I would go out to work just to get away from it all...that only made things worse for me; as I then had another load to carry. Don't do that : )
Can you look into a part time day care that you trust and are comfortable with; to give you and your preschooler a bit of a break. That way you could get some rest; and your child could have some playtime and socializing without you feeling the stress and responsibility for a while?
Posted 7/8/2015 4:35 PM (GMT 0)
In order to manage daily life, I construct a schedule. I am a bit overly-organized this way. If I have a schedule, I find it harder to deviate from what I have to do. This kind of planning gives me things to do and a time frame to accomplish tasks, and then I have less time to contemplate and over-think.

Talking to the psyc, is good,and a necessary first step. I also take Effexor,and had Wellbutrin added over a year ago. Combinations of meds work for many people.

Are you seeing a therapist? Objective and kind people help create a support system, and can teach coping mechanisms and make useful suggestions.
Posted 7/8/2015 4:43 PM (GMT 0)
My son is starting kindergarten in the fall and I was looking forward to having the summer with him since he finished preschool to have fun. I wasn't anticipating feeling this way. I feel like I'm failing

I have anxiety every morning and feel paralyzed to accomplish anything. It is so difficult to go through alone. I just look forward to sleeping so I can escape
Posted 7/8/2015 5:24 PM (GMT 0)
You are not alone.

You are not a failure. You have an illness.

You will learn to put armour on and become a warrior.

Spending quality time with your son inside or out in the yard is just as important as going to the beach or elsewhere. Giving of yourself to your son is what it is about, he wants you.
Read, color together, listen to music together. turn the sprinkler on for him. etc.

Peace
Trina
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