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Posted 12/14/2015 12:20 AM (GMT 0)
posts deleted. unhealthy thread.
Posted 12/14/2015 2:10 AM (GMT 0)
Turtle,

I know you don't know me, I'm a moderator over in Lupus - I read Chronic Pain, Depression, and Fibro pretty regularly so I feel like I know you.

Often when someone is hurt by something we say or do, it is more about them than it is about us. We are all adults here and have to protect ourselves and our delicate feelings. You've done your part by apologizing and by making sure your intentions are good. That is all you can do, and now it is up to you to forgive yourself - the other person can't do it. And since I do know you from your posts, I know you will be much harder on yourself than anyone else can be.

I hope things will calm down soon with your family and that you can let this go and find peace. Like you, sometimes I want to fix things that in reality are far beyond anything I have done or that I can fix. I know from your posts that you are a gentle and compassionate man, and that any frustration you've expressed should not be taken personally by anyone here -- we all have a right to express ALL our feelings here, and to be accepted as lovable human beings. None of us are perfect.

Best wishes.
Posted 12/14/2015 2:48 AM (GMT 0)
Sometimes we say things we don't think will be misinterpreted and what happens? Someone does. You apologized and did everything within your physical power online. I'm sure you were helpful and concise with your advise, comments and/or suggestions.

Sometimes our priorities and the pleasures that will make us feel better will take precedence. Not saying no one else is important, but it's also important to take yourself into consideration, too. I really hope you find peace with this. But as Lynnwood said, "none of us are perfect." As humans, we're bound to make mistakes. I hope it all goes well!
Posted 12/14/2015 10:21 AM (GMT 0)
Jamie, we are all here for you. Always...

I hope that things get better.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 12/14/2015 12:58 PM (GMT 0)
Jamie, perhaps the person does not think the apology is needed. Try taking a few calming breaths and read over whatever was received, see if you can find a different perspective.

You are loved and need here by many people.
I for one am glad to found a talking turtle!
Peace love and hug!
Trina
Posted 12/14/2015 2:06 PM (GMT 0)
You're always so great to everyone, Turtle! And so appreciated. I hate that you're hurting. Don't let anyone make you feel otherwise. You're doing great things around here.

Sending light and love!
Posted 12/14/2015 2:11 PM (GMT 0)
Sometimes when people don't respond to something (like an apology) it's because they are totally embarrassed by their OWN behavior!

Don't let the suckers get you down! It's not worth sacrificing your own sanity & emotional sobriety over.
Posted 12/14/2015 3:16 PM (GMT 0)
HT, did you review the message the person sent you? Could there be a different take on it?

You know, when folks try to explain things it doesn't always come out the way it was meant to. Feeling can not be felt in theses posts.

Hope you are calmer and more stable by now.

Peace and Hugs
Trina
Posted 12/14/2015 3:50 PM (GMT 0)
Hi HAPPY TURTLE,

Hey sorry that you're hurting.
They will accept your apology, because you really sound sincere, and they should forgive and forget, right?
Even though you didn't do it on purpose.
Turtle, don't worry, be happy!!!
Peace.
God bless,
Have a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Love,
Freakedoutone
Posted 12/14/2015 4:30 PM (GMT 0)
TURTLE,

Please don't give up.
Just like everybody said, WE ARE HUMAN. WE MAKE MISTAKES. NO ONE IN THE WORLD IS PERFECT!!!
Only Jesus is!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So dust yourself off, get back up and be the kind, supporting TURTLE you are!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Peace out.
God bless,
Love,
Freakedoutone
Posted 12/14/2015 11:21 PM (GMT 0)
We are only responsible for 'our side of the street'. You've done what you can to make amends. The results are out of your hands. Know that you did what was yours to do and be satisfied with that. You have a ton of support here. Please don't stay focused on the 1, ignoring the 99.
Posted 12/15/2015 3:13 AM (GMT 0)
Oh HT
I've been absent so I have missed any post where you feel something you said needed an apology for.
I can assure you that you do not have a mean bone in your body and should not continue to beat yourself up for a misinterpreted post.
Please be kind to yourself

weary
Posted 12/15/2015 3:17 AM (GMT 0)
thx everyone.

trina, Karen, best this thread be deleted please. it serves no purpose as the matter is dealt with. I wish no malice or to inflict any pain.
Posted 12/15/2015 3:19 AM (GMT 0)
Jamie,

Since you started the thread, it will be automatically deleted if you delete your first post.

Although I don't feel it's unhealthy. We all need to be reminded to not to take ourselves and others too seriously, we all are human!

Cheers.
Posted 12/15/2015 3:34 AM (GMT 0)
won't let me delete. but I will keep it. maybe it is a good lesson for us all. I deleted my posts already, I thought that was a decent thing.
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