Lost hope

Welcome, Jersey! We know what it feels like. It hurts when your body does not behave and revolts. It hurts when life changes so drastically. You are allowed to mourn--you can also feel depressed and sad. But, just as your life changed rapidly before, it will again. One day at a time, one step at a time.

Meditation can help, as can gentle exercise.

Thanks Karen, but I reached the point of not seeing any hope. I'm just going through the motions. Thanks again.

Hey Jersey!

there are a few of use here from that garden state.

There is a great support group called New Beginnings in Maganolia, Nj if you life close enough. Here is their information.

New Beginnings:

Contact Helpline Toll free 1 877 266 8222
for out of state 1-856-795-2155

HOW you feel right now is not the end. THIS will pass, does for all of us. Life is like a roller coaster, espeacially with depression, you are in the bottom of the run.

Try some distraction skills, walking for at least 10mins a days. I know you down want to, try to FORCE yourself. Facing our fears and not letting the depression win is how we all learn to deal with this.

I PROMISE IT DOES GET EASIER. I have been inpatient 5 times. and it is still hard for me, however, I force myself to do skills and it becomes less dark a lot sooner and I feel victorious

Peace and strength
Peace
Trina

It south, near Cherry HIll, about 20 mins over the Bridge from Philly

Welcome! From another Jersey Girl! As you can see from my signature, I am quite familiar with dealing both with depression and pain. I hope your testing is finished soon and you will know what you are dealing with. For me, it is always better Knowing. I can't get to 'acceptance' until I 'know' what it is that I have to accept!

There are support groups for depression, support groups for various conditions, support groups for chronic pain, etc. It is a good suggestion to find one or more! Just to be around people that 'know' what I am going through, without really having to say anything, is such a help to me.

Life is a constant change. I've had to 'stop', then slowly build my stamina back up...not just physically but emotionally and mentally as well.

The seasons play a big role in my mood. I have a full spectrum light lamp that helps me through the winter, as well as 'indoor gardening'. Spring and summer are good seasons for me. Autumn is tricky. Nutrition and hydration play a big role too. I use raw honey in tea to help with seasonal allergies, dark chocolate to help boost my mood, water, water and more water to keep my body 'fluid', etc.

You'd be surprised what can help! Keep coming and posting and learning!

A new stage of life is like that. I know exactly what you mean. For me anyway, there is only so long I can stand the inaction. I mean, follow-thru and pushing self outside, etc. I get too mad at myself for navel-gazing and push myself to do something to break the inertia. We are all different in our levels of acceptance of the depressive state.

With an illness, there is an "acceptable" and normal time period to mourn and be depressed. It's big, and you need to have time to wrap your brain around it.