bullied at work

Hi Everyone,

I've been working a part time job at the mall for a few months now. The managers disclosed my demographic info (my living sitch) to all my co-workers and anyone who walks into the store. The privacy of my sitch is nill when they never talk about anyone elses living sitch. If you are not sure where the mean girls go after they leave high school and college, well they work at the mall for the rest of their lives.

The other day the manager had her family in to visit, I walked out of the store and they stood their in the mall lobby to say "that's her" and started laughing. I reported them a few weeks into the job and it just got worse and worse.
I can't believe that managers of a fortune 500 company could be so petty and immature.

I live with a sibling and we had to take my mom in because she was recovering from a bad illness that almost killed her. When I told some of my nicer co-workers this, they understood because they were taking care of their parents as well. The petty Bees thought that "that wasn't the reason for my living sitch."

The reason for my post is I'm just baffled about how to deal with this mean girl mentality when it comes to adults that have no compassion or even hearts.

Any thoughts?
Sucks2bsick

P.S. I forgot the most horrible part. For awhile the manager was trying to piss me off and get me to quit by saying stuff like "I think she tried to kill herself and that's why she lives with her mother."
FYI: I have never tried to kill myself.

Mid 40s and early to mid 30s.
They also are saying in the store that “they think I’m a “v” amongst customers walking around the store.
They say stuff like “she listens to other ppl’s conversations” even though they say it for me to hear intentionally.

Thanks

Good grief! These women must have peaked in middle school and have never grown beyond that!. I agree, you need to work somewhere else, with adults.

Definitely report their behavior to HR. Write out a list of what they have done. And find another job. You can go on the website "glassdoor.com" and write a review of the company. This will help you "get it off your chest" and hopefully warn others away from these silly, vicious people. And definitely do not tell them one iota of personal information. Once you have found another job, take a minute to tell them how immature they have been. This will help you to forget about them and move on. (I was bullied in high school; i see now that I could have stood up for myself better, but did not know how at the time.)

This is against the law.

The store and employees can be reported to the wage and labor board.

Here is a link to get you started on a search for your rights in your state. Do not put up with this.
I would suggest getting information, find a lawyer, know your rights. Video tape this people harassing you. They most likely will think it is hysterical.

But only video them if you feel safe.

https://www.stopbullying.gov/laws/federal/index.html

Peace and strength
Trina

lI am sorry for that.

Have you thought of looking for another job?

This can't be the only available place for hiring. Hotels, nursing homes, restaurants, or always looking for people. Finding another job is always empowering when you are in a situation like this.

Peace and strength
Trina

I'm glad you have never tried to kill yourself.

What about them discussing the possibility that i’m gay today in the middle of the store?
Does anyone think that is illegal?

What's a sitch?

S2BS,

How are you? Are you still going through this? Has anything changed? I hope things are better now. You don't deserve to be treated badly.

Let us know how things are going.

Hugs, Karen...

Getting by,

I’m still in this job. I’m gonna quit soon. I’ve got a temporary seasonal job lined up til the end of the year. It’s not in the same mall, so I hope they don’t try to ruin my part time crappy jobs at the other places. I was going to report them for retaliation on my way out of there. They’ll probably will have nothing done to them and they’ll hire another unsuspecting employee to torture again.
My sister who was with me when they told me to apply while i was shopping in the store. She thinks the woman picked me out as someone she could torture and thought i would do nothing about it. I think they never knew their was such a thing as an ethics and code of conduct phone line for any organization.

I’m glad I’ll be out of there soon.

Thanks for your concern,
Sucks2bsick

Yes, i worked there last year and loved it.

Thanks,
Sb2s