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Posted 8/20/2006 6:00 PM (GMT 0)
My therapist died this past week. I have been seeing her for about a year and a half. I think she is the only person I let in to the point that I did. This has really hit me hard. It was unexpected. I do feel like we got the chance to say goodbye in the last phone conversation we had. That helps tremendously. She did set me up with a new therapist and made me promise to talk to her and if she didn't work out to find someone who did. She said, just don't stop talking. It's hard to think of her without crying. I'm sure that will pass. I mean, I lost both of my mothers and don't remember crying this much...kinda wierd.

I want this experience to help me or remind me to not give up, to keep working on myself. I want to be able to let other people in. Not live in this lonely shallow world with my only outlet being work. I want to know I can have a life. I want someone to miss me when I'm gone as much as I miss her. I just know that heaven received a great person this week.

Posted 8/21/2006 9:45 AM (GMT 0)
I'm so sorry to hear you sad news. I can understand how hard this is for you.
I wish you the best of luck with your new therapist. It may be hard at the start but I hope you will gain trust and be able to confide in her.

Take care
Posted 8/21/2006 2:09 PM (GMT 0)
I've not posted before, but your post caught my eye as I have experienced the loss of a therapist before, and know what it's like to lose someone that you've let into your world. I just want you to know it's okay to grieve your loss. This was someone you had a relationship with. She obviously cared for you also as she made sure you had someone else to talk to when she was gone. Don't be discouraged if you have to try 2 or 3 times before you find a therapist that works for you. I felt like I'd never replace the therapist I was seeing. I still miss him and try to be thankful that he helped me during the time I did have with him. The lady I'm seeing now is great. I find her approach different than before but I think maybe it's a good change. I hope the very best for you. Don't give up.
Posted 8/21/2006 2:25 PM (GMT 0)

intheozarks said...
I've not posted before, but your post caught my eye as I have experienced the loss of a therapist before, and know what it's like to lose someone that you've let into your world. I just want you to know it's okay to grieve your loss. This was someone you had a relationship with. She obviously cared for you also as she made sure you had someone else to talk to when she was gone. Don't be discouraged if you have to try 2 or 3 times before you find a therapist that works for you. I felt like I'd never replace the therapist I was seeing. I still miss him and try to be thankful that he helped me during the time I did have with him. The lady I'm seeing now is great. I find her approach different than before but I think maybe it's a good change. I hope the very best for you. Don't give up.

Hi intheozarks,

Just wanted to welcome you to healing well

Hope you continue to post

I'm glad that you found another therapist that you felt you could talk to nd open up to as it is hard in the first place so starting over can be difficult but I'm glad she is helping you.

Sometimes a different approach can be useful too, all therapist work differently.

Take care and hope to hear from you again

 

Posted 8/21/2006 3:36 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Terri,
Your therapist obviously cared a lot for you! Trust what she told you and, in time, you will find another therapist that you will like. Hopefully it will be the one she arranged for you to see. But if not, keep looking and don't give up! She apparently had faith in you and wanted you to keep on improving! So you take care of yourself! She'd be proud!
(((HUGS)))
janet
Posted 8/21/2006 6:44 PM (GMT 0)
So sorry for your loss. Keep in touch.
Posted 8/22/2006 1:47 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you all so much. I will give the new T a chance. I guess I just don't understand why this has hit me so hard.
Posted 8/22/2006 9:33 AM (GMT 0)
Terri it is bound to hit you hard, this was someone who you had developed a relationship with and somone who probably knew you better than anyone and also somone who you trusted more than anyone.
It will get easier but I can understand why you are upset.

Good luck with the new therapist and give it a good chance
Take care and god bless
Posted 8/23/2006 2:25 AM (GMT 0)
Sorry for your loss and your missing your friend and therapist. She was doing her job and obviously she/he did it very well. She obviously has your file at the office and someone new that will be there in her place will be able to help you to cope and go on with your life with a new therapist. Death and mourning can be hard. Even the loss of a pet that is dear to a person can be hard. Our family lost two pets this month, plus we lost an Aunt all the same month. You will be okay. You will find someone else there at the clinic to talk to and open up with. Being a therapist I think must be a stressful job, hearing people's problems all the time. Yet they do it willingly and take that on for a job as those people tend to be caring, sympathetic people with lots of love and attention to give.
Posted 8/25/2006 4:36 PM (GMT 0)
My therapist did make arrangements for a new therapist (a friend of hers) who I have seen now three times I think. The first couple times I really didn't talk about much and certainly not about feelings, I just couldn't. The last time she pushed me to talk about my old T and what she meant to me. We both started crying. It kind of broke the ice I guess. I think my new T, Jeri can continue the work that was started. It will be ok. We will both miss our friend. Tears come to my eyes as I'm typing this, but that's good right? Thanks everyone so much for your responses. It's nice to know people are there when you really need them. Take care all.
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