New member and depressed....

first of all i have been looking for a website where i could meet people that could talk to me and it seems like i found it. My depression I guess its something that everyone goes through, "LOVE" I just broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years. There's days where I'm fine and it seems like I got over it, but then the next day I feel down. I have experienced stuff that I've never experienced. One night I was thinking of her so much and I couldn't sleep and I started hearing her voice and seeing her next to me, it was really weird and a new feeling to me because I've never experienced this in my life. Sometimes to me it seems like it's just happening to me, but I know that there is someone out there going through the same thing. I keep hearing from people to stay busy, stay busy, stay busy, and I have been staying busy. I've been going to the gym everyday, it's funny because now to get stuff of my mind i've been going everyday and I got pretty built, but when I go out and want to talk to a girl like I used to I can't. when I hang out with friends or I'm at work or school I'm fine, but there is always that lonely moment in my bed before going to sleep, which is right now. I don't know what to do anymore we just broke up about two weeks ago. what else should I do? at times I feel hopeless, depressed, lonely, sad, etc. etc. I hear songs and it reminds me of her. well thanks for reading I hope that someone outhere can share their opinions with me and tell me what to do....

Hi Lalo, Welcome to Healing Well forum, we are very pleased to have you join us.  Breaking up is hard to do especially when it is a long term relationship.  I am still trying to recover from a divorce 2 years ago; I was with him for 12 years.  I am 32 now and often feel that my whole life was consumed by the one person.  I think that rather it is twelve years or two years the grieving process is the same as Nemekke said.  Give yourself time to heal from your relationship before you think of jumping to another.  I have greatly needed this time and space alone to figure out who I am.  I have just recently been able to listen to old songs that remind me of him, with fondness instead of getting upset or angry. So I guess what I am trying to say is all things come with time....Hang in there