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Posted 10/24/2006 10:36 AM (GMT 0)
Hi everyone,

I struggle with depression have been to numerous therapists (psychologists/psychiatrists) over the years and I am so frusterated that none of them have really won over my trust or approval. I try to understand what the therapist is trying to tell me or get me to realize, but for some reason, I just can't buy into the whole thing. I feel like therapy is kind of fake. The therapist is acting a part and I am supposed to believe them. Does anyone else feel this way? What should I do or what did you do in a similar situation?
Posted 10/24/2006 1:18 PM (GMT 0)
Hi, Sunshine!

Like you, I feel absolutely "therapy-resistant." I'm a college kid, too, and I'm usually so tired after classes that I don't want to go all the way across campus to Counseling Services. At the beginning, I really liked my therapist...but after a few visits, she started to rub me the wrong way -- and now I don't really feel like I'd be gaining anything by going to her anymore. I know a combined treatment of medication and therapy is what both my old psychologist and my psychiatrist want, but...I know what you mean by the "fake" vibes, and I'm not sure what to do about it all.

For the moment, I'm taking a few weeks off from therapy and seeing how I handle it. If I feel like it was really helping me, I plan on going back. If not, I think I may look for another counselor...or look into optional routes (like keeping a therapy journal and going over it with someone I love and trust).

Good luck, honey -- best of wishes, and let us know how things go!

-- Jess
Posted 10/25/2006 4:17 AM (GMT 0)
Sunshine, If the therapists cannot gain your approval and trust then you must find the answers yourself. Go to a site like amazon.com and look under books for the search word "depression". Get some good books and read read read all you can until you find insite for the answers for yourself. Then you won't have to worry about the therapist or trusting them. One cannot count on another person to fix or heal us....they can only give us information and advice and we must muttle through it and learn what we can from it and use it to heal ourselves. Good luck to you. Lesley
Posted 10/25/2006 5:38 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks for the advice guys! It's so cool that other people understand what I'm going through. Makes me feel much better.
Posted 10/25/2006 2:52 PM (GMT 0)

Hi Sunshine, it is odd that you would post this as I have been dealing with this same thing myself.  I have never had much luck with counselors/thearpists.  I do understand the process of counseling as I am getting my masters in psychology and have worked in the psychiatric field for many years.  However, when it comes to myself I am at a total loss.  Last year I started seeing a new psychiatrist who set me up with a counselor.  I have childhood sexual abuse issues that I have a hard time resolving.  I felt that counseling was helping for a while but after my last visit this past week I left there with very conflicting feelings.  I sit here thinking that I havent really resolved much in counseling, and my counselor said that he felt I was was good enough now that I didnt need to come back for anymore sessions.  So, I wonder does he not want to hear it anymore?  Or have I covered up my problems in counseling during session so he isnt aware of how I feel and deal with everyday?

Regardless, I think counseling is still a good tool to use if you work it right.  I dont know what my problem is and perhaps I need a differant thearpist.  But "thearpy resistance" I think would come from inside yourself in your mind.  It would be that your not ready to deal with whatever issues you have in your life causing problems.  I know this is my problem and has been for many years.  It isnt up to your thearpist to do the work...yes, they need to be perceptive to you and your feelings and issues, form a treatment plan for you and give suggestions, but basically most of the work is up to us.  That is the hardest of it all.

Posted 10/27/2006 3:50 PM (GMT 0)

Sunshine3408 said...
Hi everyone,

I struggle with depression have been to numerous therapists (psychologists/psychiatrists) over the years and I am so frusterated that none of them have really won over my trust or approval. I try to understand what the therapist is trying to tell me or get me to realize, but for some reason, I just can't buy into the whole thing. I feel like therapy is kind of fake. The therapist is acting a part and I am supposed to believe them. Does anyone else feel this way? What should I do or what did you do in a similar situation?

I think you could be right. What other profession has staff that prefer to say nothing, just listen to you, you do all the work and effort speaking and justifying yourself to them, then they say a few words at the end, book another appointment and then pocket their fee either from you or from the Government/NHS?

SS (Den)

Posted 10/27/2006 8:31 PM (GMT 0)
To sunshine3408....yes I feel that as well...I just helped myself...still in class..lol

Posted 10/28/2006 12:11 AM (GMT 0)
hi, ive felt the same way..i am a freshman right now in college, but first dealt with my depression 4 yrs ago when i was in high school and also diagnosed with panic disorder. i went thru many many therapists, i didnt like many of them because i felt that they didnt get me, that they didnt understand me. however, i learned that u need someone there to talk to...for instance, i didnt find talking to those therapists useful, so i found help in my social worker at school. just talking to someone feels so emotionally satisfying. i still feel depressed from time to time. rite now im feeling it pretty hard because ive been struggling with being away from my family since i went away to college and i kno i should find someone to talk to. u need to find something that works for u. best of luck.
Posted 10/29/2006 9:07 PM (GMT 0)

nicolex3 said...
hi, ive felt the same way..i am a freshman right now in college, but first dealt with my depression 4 yrs ago when i was in high school and also diagnosed with panic disorder. i went thru many many therapists, i didnt like many of them because i felt that they didnt get me, that they didnt understand me. however, i learned that u need someone there to talk to...for instance, i didnt find talking to those therapists useful, so i found help in my social worker at school. just talking to someone feels so emotionally satisfying. i still feel depressed from time to time. rite now im feeling it pretty hard because ive been struggling with being away from my family since i went away to college and i kno i should find someone to talk to. u need to find something that works for u. best of luck.

Good points well made!! yeah All the very best,

 

 

SS (Den) :-)

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