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Posted 1/5/2007 10:37 PM (GMT 0)

hey there:)

had a good day yesterday but by the end of work, i was pretty tired and looking and feeling glum which i hope noone noticed.. i didn't feel glum about being there its just my depression creeps up again when i get tired, its nothing to do with anyone there.. i hope nobody noticed it because i made extra effort yesterday to fit in..

i hope nobody judges me on the way i was looking glum because they dont understand whats its like for me, depression is a desease and can creep up at anytime and when it does i can look glum, empty inside, & down in the dumps, i wish people knew that is the reason for it and thats it got nothing to to with them, just this stupid depression is really starting to upset me..

i guess i was feeling glum because i knew i had to go downtown, and i have a social phobia and i get all avoident hoping not to bump into anyone i know in town.. so i race through town hoping nobody notices me..

i wish people who arent depressed understand that its nothing against them its my problem and if they dont like it dont get to know me..

takecare all

Posted 1/6/2007 12:15 AM (GMT 0)
I think it can be hard for people without depression to understand how it depletes everything from you, but I do not think it means that no one without depression can understand it. Sometimes just by being around family members or friends with depression one can gain insight or from reading about it. I think I never fully understand something til I go through it but I do think I can have some empathy for things I haven't experienced. Even if one has never had a full blown depression, one has usually had a situation bring them down and just needs to extend the picture a little to grasp what depression is like.

It sounds as if it was very hard for you going downtown with your social phobia, but good for you---you did it!!! And yes there will be people who don't understand why you seem so empty and glum. I think that goes for every person and every affliction. I think we can feel pretty isolated though if we think no one can possibly understand us. Sure some people cannot, but I think there are plenty who can and we must find them, which is no easy task at times.

It seems this board is a good starting place and I'm glad you've found it. Hopefully those who can understand and empathize will make up for those who can't. It's not a perfect world and no one in it is perfect so we have to sift through and find the connections most meaningful to us and hang onto them. I hope you make a lot of connections here because I believe it would help you feel less isolated if you felt more understood. There are many people here who understand. Thank you for sharing your frustrations with us and for reaching out to us in trust for some understanding and empathy.
Posted 1/6/2007 5:47 PM (GMT 0)
Greymouse - you are completley right, depression is an illness.

 

I can understand your feelings as I have just spent 4 months in hospital and I have lost a few friends as they do not understand what is wrong with me.  I suffer from severe depression, anxiety disorder and post traumatic stress disorder.

My family and best friends have been really supportive and have being understanding but there have been some friends who have been really scared of it all and have dissappeared.  If I had been in hospital with a physwical illness there would have been no problem but because its an illness that you cannot see they can't understand at all.

 

I met a really good friend in hospital and thats one good thing that came out of it all.  I have also realised who my true friends are now and I value the friends that have been wonderful to me. If m other friends get in touch now Im not in hospital anymore I dont think I can see them as too much has happened to me and I feel like Im a bit different now.  If they cant be there for me through good and bad times, they arent really true friends in my opinion.

 

I have only really started to realise while I was in hospital that I am actually ill and I wouldn't wish this on anyone.  I know I will get  better eventually, it just takes time.

 

Take care

Posted 1/7/2007 7:14 AM (GMT 0)
Greymouse...
You will be fine..actually you just reminded me of a txt that someone sent me recently..


I wish I were a glow worm
a glow worm's never glum
'coz how can u be grumpy
when the sunshines out your b...m

Hope no ones offended coz it sure made me smile when I read it lol.
I note that you are making an effort to fit in at work...that's a major step for you..hope you giving yourself heaps of praise for that!

When I am feeling low I find it hard to talk to people too..and sometimes it's exhausting really...but it's probably good for us to do so..and sometimes when you hear other peoples probs you realise that 'heck' my life is not so bad after all.

Take good care greymouse and keep up the good efforts.

Maree

 

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