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Posted 1/17/2007 7:47 AM (GMT 0)
Hi My ex has offered his hand of friendship, although it seems one sided, but says he's there for me & hoping that I need his help and that I go running to him, as I have done in the past. Should I just go it alone, is he using me when in actual fact it's him that needs my company, but tries to make out that it's me that needs him more! I keep brooding and can’t sleep in night.   Please can anyone advise me what to do
Posted 1/17/2007 10:36 AM (GMT 0)

Hi sabrina,  I think I am the last person to be giving relationship advice here as I havent had a good track record with men... eyes   but here goes anyway.  I would say to go with your feelings.  If you feel you want to be friends with him and can handle that then do so.  There isnt anything wrong with being friends with your ex but if you do think that he has motives behind the offer then perhaps you should stay away and decline.  I dont know....Do you want him back?  Did you have a good relationship with him?

Posted 1/17/2007 12:38 PM (GMT 0)
It sounds like he wants to keep you at his side, so he can go back to you if things work out. Or he's really missing you and he's hoping you come back to him (male stubbornness!).

Honestly though, it could be anything, its hard to say when feelings are involved. But if you think he's worth at the least keeping as a friend just keep things cool between you and stay in touch. If he wants to get back to the good old days of married life, it’s fine. You can always build up a successful married life. You may get very good tips to make your reunion real successful by reading the “Ten Days to a good Marriage” by Dr. Max Vogt , www.TenDaysToAGoodMarriage.com

Hope for the best!
Posted 1/18/2007 3:26 AM (GMT 0)
Sabrina..friendship is great...and hey if he's there for you as a friend when you need him that's great - But, at what cost I ask myself?
I think I may be a little cynical to answer this question lol.
However, it's always tempting to go back and wear the old comfortable slippers - but you may find that you have moved on and have become stronger because of the seperation..
It really depends on how and why you split up in the first palce..need more info really :)
The choice is yours..good luck on what ever you decide.
Maree
Posted 1/20/2007 7:24 PM (GMT 0)
It's very difficult to be friends with an ex, especially so soon after a breakup. Until your feelings are not as intense and more under control (meaning, what he does/says doesn't affect you, you care less and think of him JUST as a friend, nothing more, nothing less) then it's OK.

In all honesty, I don't see the point in relying on him. If the relationship is over, keeping the friendship alive is going to hurt, maybe even getting your hopes up that you two will get back together.

Good luck and keep busy. Talk to your women friends and any family you're close with.
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