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Posted 4/7/2007 4:17 AM (GMT 0)
Hi I am new to this forum. 

I had a complete hysterectomy on Feb. 5 and am doing well physically, but emotionally, I am a wreck!  I get so sad and depressed  and it is not because of my surgery, I am glad I had it and have no regrets, I am 46 years old.  It's just that any little thing that is sad, I get emotional and have these crying spells too.  When I am busy and doing something or at work, it is better, it is just when i am alone and have time to sit around and think, that I start dwelling on things and getting so down and depressed.  I am not on any medication and don't want to be.  I just wanted to know if this is normal and is it possibly hormones?  I have always been sensitive and cry sometmes, but not like this. 

Posted 4/7/2007 6:45 AM (GMT 0)
Hi LFW

Welcome to HW tongue

Any kind of 'woman' type op is gonna upset the hormones and the emotions..sheesh - completely understandable!

I am sure that lots of us women have been thru this and will come to your aide.

Maybe it's time to treat yourself to something wonderful..doesn't have to be expensive...a trip to the hairdresser, makeup, a holiday in the carribean lol, anything to give yourself a lift.

Keep posting and take good care.

Maree

Posted 4/7/2007 12:38 PM (GMT 0)
LFW

Welcome to the board,there are alot of great and caring people here that have alot of good advice.
It is completely normal to feel that way after a hysterectomy.
I had my tubes tied at a very young age, (bad marriage and I decided not to bring any more kids into that mess). and because of that I have been going through early menopause.
Basically when they are messing with a woman's body,it makes our hormones go crazy.
I did find some info on the net that I think might help answer your questions:

www.4woman.gov/faq/menopaus.htm#j

www.menopause-online.com/discomfort.htm

Hope this helps and keep us posted

Shy
Posted 4/7/2007 5:41 PM (GMT 0)
LFW
Hi and Welcome to HW
I totally get what you are saying and I can tell you I was an emotionally train wreck after I had  to have a radical hysterectomy done
Anything on the TV whether it was a commercial or a show would have me balling my face off and I never thought that it would stop....it did hun it took some time and doing SOMETHING for aself like was suggessted to get it to where I got back in some kind of control
Both Maree and Shy are spot on they mess with our insides they MESS us right up .........
I dont take the hormone replacement either and my doc does not push the issue .....
All I can say is this I had the same thing happen and I am now doing just fine I have normal bouts of crying not the way I was
Looking back on it seems so surreal I cannot believe that I had that many tears and the things I cried over was just so unbelievable
Know you are amongst those that do know and feel what you are going thru
Post and let it all out this is a great group of people here .......

I think part of me felt less a woman and thats what caused some of the raw emotions ,but I know now that I am still a woman just one that had to have a hysterectomy thoughts are with you

LYN

Posted 4/24/2007 10:16 PM (GMT 0)
Hi LFW,

I'm new here too. Hoping things are going better for you, but wanted to ask if you've heard of the HysterSisters website?

Go to www.hystersisters.com - it is a site devoted exclusively to helping women deal with hysterectomies and all kinds of variations of them. They helped me a lot a few years ago when I went through a similar situation. It's important to be able to talk to others who have gone through what you're dealing with.

Good luck!!
Posted 4/25/2007 5:15 AM (GMT 0)
i am a man, so have no prsonal experience with this particular procedure. :) our daughter had a hysterectomy several years ago and went through a mild depression. nothing likek yours. she When i showed concern, sjhe tole me that her docter had informed her to expect depression - it was the most common side-effect with a hysterectomy.

being who i am, i looked it up on the internet. webmd was very helpful, as i recall. many drs are now referring their hysterectomy patients to therapists after surgery bacause of the depression.

not adding much, but this is the best i can do.

warren
Posted 4/25/2007 7:17 PM (GMT 0)
Your body is going through big adjustments. Not only is it normal to have depression after surgery of any kind but especially surgery that will change the entire way your body deals with hormones. Generally about 6 weeks afterwards everything should be getting back to normal. If it isn't then don't be afraid to ask for help, see a counselor or see if your local hospital has a post-hysterectomy support group.

Also, you don't have to be on meds to come here. We are here for you.
Posted 4/26/2007 2:56 AM (GMT 0)

Hi sorry to hear you are having a rough time, I think we have to go through a kind of mourning period after we loose a part of ourselves.  I had my tubes done and was ok with doing it and never regretted it but I still went through a sense of mourning the loss. It was a final thing. Take time to let your body and mind heal with its recent loss.  Hope you feel better soon.

Take care

Cathy

Posted 4/26/2007 1:46 PM (GMT 0)
Hello LFW i can understand fully what you are going through i had my hysterectomy when i was just 38 i was so sick in hospital after it that i didn`t think much of what had just happened to me it wasn`t until a couple of weeks after when i was leaving the hospital just walking down the stairs that it just hit me i was so sad but couldn`t explain why . I tried to get on with life but was just a mess . When i talked to the dr about this she just said it was the other part of what had happened and it was a normal reaction . I talked to my hubby as to why i was so depressed and when i said it was from my op he said to me that he didn`t suffer from depression after he had his appendix out so why should i with this ( he was so understanding i stopped talking to him about how i feel ) .But what i`m trying to say is that you have lost an important part of who you are and you are going through like a grieving process it will take a while even six months before you feel any different .But keep in contact with your dr and let him/her know how you are feeling if it is getting any better or not .
I know it`s a horrible time for you know and being so emotional is the pitts but things will improve in time just take it easy and let your body fully heal mentally and physical .
Restless
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