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Posted 6/23/2007 7:02 PM (GMT 0)
I have posted a number of times on this forum, under this subject, anxiety, epilepsy.  I get so few anwers to my posts - I just feel I am wasting my time hoping for support when I need it.  Some people get so many answers.  I just don't understand why no one pays any attention to me when I am feeling so bad.  What make a person worthwhile anwering?  I am feeling so low and lonely but it seems only the moderators answer me sometimes.  I feel it is not worth pouring out my heart when no one seems to care.  I am just as depressed as others and I really struggle with keeping my life on track by volunteering and keeping up with my interests and friends.  If any one can give me a reason why no one cares I would like to hear it.  Otherwise, I guess there is no point in my continuiing with this. sad
Posted 6/23/2007 7:27 PM (GMT 0)

Aurora

 

I am new here so and I can’t answer for others but I do hear you and wish you well..  I know how as I have felt the very same as you. 

 

It has been my experience with posting boards.  People are not ignoring you they are talking to people they know and therefore are comfortable in communicating with who they know. Not saying its right or saying it’s wrong, just saying it seems to be human nature and the way it goes on sites like this.

 

Know you are not alone keep asking for help and it will come.

 

I hope you feel better and hang in there.

 

Ron

 

   

Posted 6/23/2007 7:30 PM (GMT 0)

Ron,

Thanks for your reply. It does make me feel better.  Maybe that is true that the people who know each other communicate.  I just feel it doesn't hurt to offer advice to some one who is new and in need of help.  I will keep trying for now.  Thanks again for your kind words.

Posted 6/23/2007 8:27 PM (GMT 0)
Hi there,

Im a moderator and Im still not sure what causes people to reply to some things and not others. It is true that we are all equally deserving of support and I would still recommend that you 'pour your heart out' when you need/want to. One thing that can make a difference is the subject title. Sometimes if it is to vauge (Such as "Feeling Depressed") people skip over it. Sometimes, putting more detail in can make a difference.

I hope this helps

Darren

P.S Do you frequent epilepsy a lot? Just curious since I am a MOD there too and the name doesnt ring a bell with me

Posted 6/24/2007 1:58 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks for your reply Darren.  I don't know what it is about my posting titles - I don't want to sound like i'm off the wall so I tend to make it simple.  I have expressed a lot of lonliness and very low feelings in the past but it still seems no one cares while they seem to care for others - many of whom seem really bad off.  Maybe no one thinks I am sad enough - I don't know how to convey it any stronger.  Right now I am in bad shape and would love to hear from others.

I have posted only a few times on the epilepsy forum.  My son has epilepsy and I need to vent about my problems with him.  My son is 33 and still living at home.  He is somewhat independent, he has held a teacher's aide job for the past 9 years and he does drive but he has no independent living skills.  He  doesn't get when to pay his bills or taxes or make Dr. appts. - he seems to depend on me for everything and to make matters worse he is always angry with me.  The anger is a side effect of his meds.  I am not getting any younger and need to get him self sufficient in case something happens to me. 

Well, I will try a few more times to see who is willing to answer my posts - but i'll just have to wait and see.  Anybody????? eyes

Posted 6/24/2007 5:48 AM (GMT 0)

Hey Aurora,

Everyone is different here, some people having more in common than others.  Some members have been posting for a long time and recognize each other, so they post back and forth frequently.  Sometimes it just might be how your word your Post Heading.  Something very simple like "Feeling Depressed" is probably not going to get much attention.  After all, this is the "Depression" forum (DUH!!!) so chances are that most of us, being depressed ourselves, just don't have that much to add to the post, or just don't have the energy to type anything.  Sometimes I'll start a reply to a post, but just get bogged down in the middle, and end up just quiting before I finish the post.  One other thing, look at the original post date.  Some posts with lots of views and/or replies have actually been on the board for months and just get pulled up every now and then.  Other times, if you notice the last reply column date, it may be several days or weeks old.   I've noticed a definite trend that people pop up and post, then don't check back in for some period of time.  Weekends can be especially slow.  You can make a post, but might not get a response for a couple of days, just cuz people are doing other things.

Above all, there isn't someone monitoring the forum at all times, and posting a reply every time a new post or reply shows up.  The longer you hang around, the more you will notice the signs I've pointed out above.   Lastly, there's nothing personal about the amount of replies one person gets verses another.  Depressed people can be very random.

I hope this helps some.  I was going to start my own post, but just couldn't get past naming the post with something I was was satisfied with.  Talking about lame(LOL!!!)  Oh, well.  I will think good thoughts for you.

Leigh Ann cool

Posted 6/24/2007 1:44 PM (GMT 0)
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Post Edited By Moderator (ShynSassy) : 6/26/2007 5:25:19 AM (GMT-6)
Posted 6/24/2007 2:20 PM (GMT 0)
I can relate alot to what your saying. I wish you well. Are you on any medications at the moment ? I hope you ccan get feeling better. With me I find I just dont know what to tell people. I also find myself depressed when I make a post and also get no replies, I undertsand this doesnt mean people dont care they simply may not know what to say or unable to relate to your topic. I have recently came off my meds and im feeling horrible and hoping it gets better with time.

Again for anyone everyone on this board I have full sympathy and wish nothing more than that we could all get alot to a level to enjoy life and not be brought so down
Posted 6/24/2007 8:40 PM (GMT 0)

Hi  - I am new here and I have thought the same thing, but like others have said, I know I dont post unless I feel what I have to say would really help... but at the same time I know how much it helps just to be acknowledged, to know someone is listening and cares, whether they have the magic words or not.... so I really know where you are coming from...

So please know sister, that I care and am holding you in my higher thoughts.....

Peace

Posted 6/26/2007 2:56 AM (GMT 0)

Hey Aurora,

Faithfully4you made a statement in her reply to you that said:

Aurora, what you need to remember is that you are not worthy of anyone replying to your posts and what I have found with this forum is that the advice and encouragement you get from this forum are TRUE AND THOUGHT THROUGH!!!

I'm totally sure that the underlined words are a "typo."  I'm sure Faithfully4you did NOT mean to use the word "NOT".   You are certainly worthy of replies to your posts.  I hope you didn't take the post the wrong way.  All members in the Healingwell family are very supportive of each other but sometimes we all make mistakes when we are writing our posts.  Everybody messes up from time to time, so please don't feel bad about something that is so clearly a typing boo-boo.  I know personally that I know what I mean to say, but when previewing a post, sometimes I miss a wording problem because my brain is focused on what my meaning is, but isn't catching what I actually typed is wrong.

Hope this makes sense, and please let us know how you are doing.

Leigh Ann cool

Posted 6/26/2007 11:26 AM (GMT 0)
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I am sure it was a typo so I just quickly took the word "not" out.


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Posted 6/27/2007 1:38 PM (GMT 0)
Aurora
I do hope that you know you are more than worthy of replies and if you need to talk you can email me anytime okay

Be well and stay strong ........

God Bless

LYN
Posted 6/28/2007 4:30 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Aurora,
I am up there in years and understand because I had a son with Epilepsy and he had rages. they finally got his medicines to work but he got ill and passed 2 years ago at age 43 with menegitis. I am also an epileptic but controled. I just got so da** tired. I know he is ok with God but I look back on the time I had with him and I know I tried my best. The feeling that if I could just disappear everything would be ok would grab hold on me at times. I read your post and it took me back.
How I did not fall is still a mystery. I used to look around and build all kinds of stories of what things would be like if I weren't there. But even though my son was trouble he could trust me and depend on me. I think that held me together and some higher power.
Now I still have problems and I get down a lot but reading other peoples thoughts kind of help me. Since my hubby passed last month the doctor gave me some medicine but I don't want to be zonked. I do take Librium when I get teary. Maybe you should talk to your doctor about something mild. You need to tell someone how you feel instead of hiding it. Keep posting it will help putting it down.
Posted 6/28/2007 5:57 AM (GMT 0)

Hi Aurora,

It's Carla from over on the epilepsy board.  I want you to feel free to email me any time you need to.  I really mean any time.  Since I'm still having seizures, I'm stuck at home any way, which is a little depressing to me.  I do take Celexa.  Helping each other helps take the focus off what we're dealing with or at least forget about it for a little bit.

Take care!

Carla

Posted 6/30/2007 12:42 AM (GMT 0)

Carla,

Thanks so much for all your help and support.  It really means a lot to me.  I am doing a little better thanks to getting out and doing my volunteer job.  I have also figured out a way to talk to my son about getting him more independent so now I just have to do it.  I know how staying in a lot can really get you down.  I hope you have some friends who can visit with you.  I am always here to help you if you need someone to talk to or just an e-hug.  Take care of yourself - I really do care.

Aurora

Posted 6/30/2007 1:36 AM (GMT 0)

Aurora,

I know you do care, just like we care about you.  I'm glad you are able to talk to your son and that you all are working on things.

Take care!

Carla

Posted 6/30/2007 3:07 AM (GMT 0)
I do not think that people do not care. I know what it feels to be ignored. Depressing. The older I get, the more it seems to me that one is born with depression. What do you think? How old are you? I am 55.
Posted 6/30/2007 4:20 AM (GMT 0)
Aurora,

Give it some time and people will come around. This is my first post to this forum and I have had the same experience with new forums before. I would be happy to listen and respond to anything you may want to talk about. I am dealing with mild depression myself. I came to this site for a Frozen Shoulder forum. Talk with you soon. I'm 49 years old and a female my name goes either way so I like to clarify. Happily married with 3 dogs and 3 cats.
Posted 6/30/2007 4:08 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Whynoy04 and Terbear.
Thanks for your comments. I think depression gets harder when you are older as we lose friends or familymembers pass away.I think depression runs in families. I have good days and bad days. I am 61 , have 2 sons and have been divorced for more than 20 yrs. I raised my boys alone and they are really great so I must have done something right. I guess the best we can do is just get through one day at a time. My Grandmother used to always tell me tomorrow will be a better day.
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