Goddess, That is a very hard realization to come too...I am pleased that counseling is helping you and you are able to come to this point. That is where healing begins...
Saying "I was just a kid", knowing it deep in your heart and remembering that day after day is one of the hardest things. Realizing that we had no power or control in what happened, it wasnt our faults and trying to learn how to live with it in peace is a huge feat.
I too am trying to get to this point...it just hasnt jelled for me yet.