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Posted 8/3/2007 5:57 AM (GMT 0)
hi,

does anybody have any reading suggestions on the topic of positive thinking... I would prefer something from a non-religious viewpoint and aimed at people suffering from clinical depression.

this is no joke...

I am usually always really down on myself and i guess come across as unenthusiastic about all things. I feel like a lot of people hate me, which I know is stupid. I would just like to figure out how to feel more positive about myself and my situation without a lot of saccharine sentiment.

thank you in advance for suggestions

-- Mother of Daisy the basset hound
Posted 8/3/2007 7:51 AM (GMT 0)
Hi,
I feel "Reading" about your situation is just that - knowledge; I got tons of that, but still no relief from depression, and when I do get motivated it's short-lived. Yes I have practiced and been consistent with undersizes too.

Sometimes there's just an 'Imbalance' somewhere? I've tried all of the popular 'Pharmaceutical' anti-depressants too. They either 'take my head off' and/or put me to sleep for a week. I'm hard on my Dr. I tell him :If he hasn't been involved in R&D I might know more than he does . . . and that's true Mom!

I'm looking at something that's been brought to my attention- it's for boosting well being and seratonin - in the brain, helps insomnia too, it won't be covered by medicade etc., it's sold at health stores.

E me - because I don't know if I can mention it here.
Posted 8/3/2007 8:54 AM (GMT 0)
Hi ya Daisy.  I am married to a wonderful lady who has this nasty disease.  Depression.  Recently she has been really down.  I keep telling her to tell herself that tomorrow will be a good day.  she says she can't say that.  I told her that she does have choices in life.  One is to be misserable the other is to be happy.  she keeps telling me it is easy for me to say that.  Yes she is right.  Because i do not and will not ever understand this dumb disease.  I HOPE.  

Posted 8/3/2007 10:47 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Daisy
It is so hard to think positive when you are so down. Most people just struggle to get up everyday...are you in therapy?


Shy
Posted 8/3/2007 12:47 PM (GMT 0)
:-)  Feeling positive is really hard sometimes - I've read so many books on depression and have learnt lots but it hasn't made me thik more positively.

You need to find a friend, therapist, doctor who will REALLY listen - not give their opinions 'Just be happy' or 'Buck your ideas up'!! Talking to someone who listens makes you think through and explore WHY you are feeling like this.

I understand you saying ' I am stupid' and 'No-one likes me'. I feel that way too. Have you got a close friend to talk too?

Thinking of you xx

Posted 8/4/2007 6:21 AM (GMT 0)
BTW; G.Micheal Durst PhD. wrote a book that I consider my "bible" on ' management by responsibility' (as he calls his course) It's called:

"NAPKIN NOTES: the art of living " I assure you, you'll laugh, cry, but most importantly; YOU'LL SEE.

It's the ART - not the science of attaining; clout, money, position etc.
Posted 8/4/2007 6:25 AM (GMT 0)
hello,

yes, I am in therapy and I think I have a good therapist. I am also taking medication and it does keep me sane.

the reason I had this "positive thinking" idea was because I just got blown off for a job I had tried to get at my current place of employment. I got rejected, possibly because I did not show enough enthusiasm.

So I was thinking, how can I come across better to people... It would be helpful if I could just go in there and promote myself better.

Like I said, I do have a good therapist. I just remember that I used to cut things out of the newspaper, or write things down that I read in books, and they were inspiring, or at least they would remind me of how I could make some improvements here and there.

yessirreee, if you haven't been here, you might not understand it.

-- mk
Posted 8/4/2007 6:27 AM (GMT 0)
Mr. intensity, you must have posted just before me. I will look for that book. thanks

--mk
Posted 8/5/2007 5:30 AM (GMT 0)
The old standard, "The Power of Positive Thinking" is still a good read. I truly believe in positive visualization and know that attitude is everything. Before anyone jumps all over me, yes I have depression, yes I have been on medication and yes I have ups and downs. I also know that no matter what is going on with me, attitude matters. I get better when I take control of the depression instead of the depression controlling me.

Daisysmom, I think we can never have too many tools to take care of ourselves with. Good for you.
Posted 8/5/2007 11:38 AM (GMT 0)
I've really enjoyed a lot of the "Chicken Soup For The Soul" books. Thousands of stories that lift the soul and give a great perspective on life. The overwhelming majority of the stories are non religious.

Another one is titled "Unstoppable" by Cynthia Kersey. It's subtitle is "45 Powerful Stories of Perseverance and Triumph from People Just Like You."

Ed
Posted 8/5/2007 10:12 PM (GMT 0)

Daisysmom

Here is a good site to help you prepare for a job interview. I know that can be scary but just be prepared, relax and be yourself.  All of us have not been the chosen one on lots of interviews, so your in good company.

http://www.ehow.com/how_1721_prepare-job-interview.html

Best of luck to you and you are a good person, so let us help you.

Hugs galore.

Kitt

Posted 8/6/2007 12:07 AM (GMT 0)
A suggestion...get a 3-ring binder and sturdy plasti sleeves.  Start putting ALL notes, thank you ards, positive performane reviews, inspirational quotes (from magazines or on index ards).  Also, keep a gratitude journal.  Eah night before you go to bed, write down three things that you are thankful for. 

I know it's hard.  I've been there.

Hope you feel better soon.

Posted 8/7/2007 2:58 AM (GMT 0)
some more interesting ideas.

i like the idea of a journal of some sort...

in one of my past jobs, i used to get a lot of thank you cards... i think i still have some of them in a cardboard box somewhere. I used to have a boss who would always thank us for every little thing, which I thought was strange at first because i had never known anybody, especially at work, who would do that. After I got used to it, it was actually nice.

it IS nice to be thanked on occasion for all the little things we do. And I guess I ought to show more gratitude to the people who do thank me. (And I do remember to thank others from time to time!)

so thank YOU all for your suggestions.

-- mk
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