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Posted 1/29/2008 11:53 PM (GMT 0)
Hello everyone,

I haven't been to a counseling appointment in about 2.5 months already, which for me, is a long time. I have a lot of stuff that I needed to talk about since then, but now it sorta doesnt bother me anymore, but I feel like I should mention it anyway.

Anyway, I was wondering....

I LOVE my therapist. Such a great person and I thought I felt really comfortable around her. But now that I think about it, every time I go in her office I get really intimidated, and she's by far an intimidating person. How can I settle my nerves and just calm myself down mentally before i go in the office and spill? I get really hesitant in mentioning things as a result of this

Also, I would really appreciate if you guys could give me tips for this-

When I get nervous about something, especially silence, or a counseling appt, or anything, I get really really hot and I feel very sick to my stomach and my stomach makes these noises. Natually, I understand that this happens to everyone, but I just get really embarrased because I feel lke I can't be serious. Food or OTC medications or anything I can take to settle my stomach? Or mental tips to help myself calm down before going in to confess my feelings?

I really appreciate any feedback!

THanks!

Posted 1/30/2008 12:04 AM (GMT 0)
I think that if you tell your therapist what happens, that it would probably stop. I am sorry that you go through that, I can see where you would laugh about it. Is that what you mean by you can't be serious?

I think honesty would help you a lot right now, I can just picture my stomache doing that.LOL.

Hugs,

Karen
Posted 1/30/2008 12:49 AM (GMT 0)
hmm

sorry. i find this a little embarassing, but yeah that's what i meant by not being able to feel like i can be serious. i have this "fear"of silence so that's another thing that really scares me going in because i know its gonna be quiet for a long time.
i guess honesty is really best, right? when i see her i'll just tell her then. ill find the courage somewhere. :)
thank you, karen.
Posted 1/30/2008 1:18 AM (GMT 0)
Eyes - did you know that the silence is actually a tactic used by the therapist to have you open up a little more? (Actually, not just therapists, it was a tool I learned while going through some manager counseling/training for my job). They rely on the person wanting to fill the silence and in turn they receive more information. Just knowing that may help calm you a bit since you know what it is he/she is up to.
Posted 1/30/2008 4:31 AM (GMT 0)

I think I would just tell her how your stomach gets tied up in knots and just get it out in the open.  I'm sure it's hard for you to concentrate when you're thinking you may have to run to the bathroom at any time.  I bet if you just talk to her, it might change everything.  I think it's worth a try.

Big Hugs!

Carla

Posted 1/30/2008 8:25 AM (GMT 0)
Hi,

I thought the same thing as gettingby, it would be helpful to just to get things in the open with your therapist. I wonder what would happen if you shared that you find her intimidating. Maybe she would be open to finding ways to help change that dynamic that you guys could work on together.

I used to chew peppermint gum to help calm my stomach when nervous. Peppermint tea can help too.

take care, manyembers
Posted 1/31/2008 2:54 AM (GMT 0)
i tested out the peppermint tea today.
thanks for the tip.

something in that supposed to settle nerves? stomach? it was good too

im going tomorrow....gah! so nervous!
thanks everyone
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