My son's bride to be (really just girl friend at this point, although they are getting engaged in Oct. 08) has been making all kinds of decisions on how their wedding should be and the rehearsal. etc. She has given no thought to what he might like or how any of the parents feel about
the wedding. Since we are all contributing to the cost of this affair I think ALL of us should meet to discuss the plans. She is an only child and my son is the only wedding I will have on my side. There are also 3 sets of parents here too - hers, myself and my ex-husband and his wife. When my son graduated from college his step-mom and I planned his graduation party together. She really did all of the leg work as I was working full time and taking care of my Mom, but she did not make any decisions without me. She presented me with options for place, guests, menus etc. It was a beautiful party and we all got along so well. I am very friendly with my ex and his wife. The problem is this spoiled, immature girl who is so used to getting her own way that she can't understand anyone else's point of view. My son had a big fight with her today and hung up the phone on her. He was at my house for lunch so that is how I know. He also asked my opinion on what I thought of the situation. I told him that first of all she should not even be making wedding plans sans ring on her finger and that I said as long as I was going to have to pay for some of this as well as the others that we all plan together. That is not to say that they shouldn't have the wedding they want, they just need to consider us. I know his dad will go ballistic if he is not consulted. I know I am rambling but I need to get this off my chest as it is getting me so depressed and feeling bad that I won't be able to enjoy the wedding. How do others handle this kind of situation when the parents are paying? Would appreciate some feedback.
Aurora