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Posted 5/7/2008 4:06 AM (GMT 0)
Well it found it's way home. Like back in Feb. I found out b/f is back to old tricks. He's still in touch with old g/f. Two of my children are Wiccans and they tell me I'm a Witch because I feel things and know things either before they happen or while. Well I knew this back in Feb and I knew it now.

Confronted him, he told me that I said it was okay. Why would I on God's green earth tell him that it's okay to talk to his ex who in the last 5 years has caused me nothing but heart ache and grief. I forgave him this last time but not any more.

I feel like a knife has been stuck deep inside me. I wonder why everytime I get with someone they trat me like a piece of dogsh**. I make money watching children and give almost all of it to him to help with bills all he does with it is put it in his pocket.

I'm so tired and fighting Fibro or what ever it is that I have. I can even go get a stupid TB tes without running a fever.

I give up.

Roni

Posted 5/7/2008 10:02 AM (GMT 0)

Hi Roni,

It sounds like you are being taken for a ride here. I think you need to set some ground rules and make it clear what the consequences of breaking them are otherwise I think this is something that is going to keep happening. Combined with fighting fibro, im not surprised your exhausted. Try taking some time out for you. Look after number one... otherwise number one cant look after anyone.

Darren

Posted 5/7/2008 10:39 AM (GMT 0)
I'm giving parents as of today my two weeks so that they can find someone else to take over. I've fought all his exs for 5 years and I can't do it anymore. I used to love life but not anymore.

I could understand if I wasn't giving him money to help with the bills or even took care of his needs, Heck I even pick out his clothes in the mornings.

This is my 4th long lasting relationship I'm 47 almost 48 I don't want to like my mom and my greatgrandmother alone but I guess I'm going to be.

Roni
Posted 5/7/2008 11:14 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Ladybug

Whatever you do, it is not your fault,always remember that.
Sometimes people seem to get into a mode, and they can't get out of it. Who knows what happened,was the ex's contacting him first and he just didn't know how to say no?

My b/f have had to deal with his crazy x just showing up at 2am,or sending stupid emails. Luckily for me,my b/f has basically put her on ignore,and so far so good.

I am wondering if they are using the "poor me" to him,and he feels guilty?

I understand that you are upset,as I would be too.But, you have to ask yourself if you love him,and are better off with or without him?
Then, how would he feel if you send the X's an email,and just told them that you are sorry,but by them contacting him,it is causing to many problems,and to please stop.

If he is willing to let you do that,then I think he just doesn't know how to say no. If he isn't willing,well, then that would be the end of things to me.....
Posted 5/7/2008 3:16 PM (GMT 0)
Nope he contacted her. He sent her an IM for a couple of sites. And he's the one that plays the poor me. Poor me haven't gooten anything in a couple of days, she just don't understand me, things at work are to stressful.

So no not her contacting him.

Back when him and I got together he had ag/f like that, her and I though started becoming friends and then I found out some things about yet another ex this one. He had sex with this one while seeing the one I had become friends with. So this girl has been in the pic for some time. And he just won't let her go.

3 years ago I was in the mental hospital for 3 days and in Feb. this girl the same one he is talking to now, told me after I had found out that they were giong to have an affair ( well he says because we aren't married it's not an affair it's cheating) anyways that they had sleeped together while I was in the hospital.

Roni
Posted 5/7/2008 3:41 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Veronica,

I wouldn't put an end to the daycare if you can handle it. But you might want to put an end to this relationship. You would be much farther ahead. But now I realize you said it was his house. Maybe it is time to move on. Don't be afraid of being alone. I am 49 and just got married in December. You deserve somebody that will be good to you. And he is out there somewhere. You should get your own place and start your daycare again. I hate to see you give that up. I know how much you love it. I think that the stress from what he is doing to you is making your fibromyalgia worse. You would feel a lot better without that. And even if it is for a little while, at least that would give him time to think about what he has done to you. I know that you said that he spends a lot of time at the bar sometimes, is that with your hard earned money? This just isn't right. You need to move on my friend.

keep posting, we are here for you.
hugs, Karen
Posted 5/7/2008 4:34 PM (GMT 0)
He doesn't spend time at the bars he drinks here at home. But his beer is where some of my money goes.

He told me that I needed to grow up and quit being so insurcure. I'mnot jealous or any of those things like I was back in Feb. I angry I'm pissed and I'm tired of being lied to.

I don't want any more relationships, to be honest I just want to go dig a hole and crawl in it. I'm just tired.

Roni
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