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Posted 10/5/2008 4:25 PM (GMT 0)
i have a disability and because of this i have become extremly jealous and depressed and i have pushed my partner of 7 months so far away that he has told me he seriously needs to look at weather he wants to be with me. i love him so much and am terrified of losing him i need help to deal with my depression and jealousy and i dnt knw where to start. i cant afford counciling and have been looking online to be able t talk to someone but kep coming to dead ends he is depressed himself and doesnt understand why i have done what i have with pusing him away and i cant find the right words to explain in a way that he can understand what i have done. i realise i need help because i dont now how to stop this.

PLEASE HELP!!!!!!
Posted 10/5/2008 4:54 PM (GMT 0)

sad&desperate,

Welcome to HealingWell and I am sorry to hear you depression is keeping your from feeling happy and content.

One to One therapy is the best way to work through your depression.  Also, are you on and medications?

There is an online therapy that is free and it may seem a little easy when you first start working through the program but keep at it.

Cognitive-behavioral therapy is based on the idea that our thoughts
cause our feelings and behaviors, not external things, like people, situations,and events. The benefit of this fact is that we can change the way we think to feel / act better even if the situation does not change. This is also know as CBT therapy.

Here is the link for you: http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/

Keep talking to us.

Kitt

Posted 10/5/2008 5:04 PM (GMT 0)
the meds i am on are

tramodol
naproxin
co codamol
amatriptylin
pregabelin

they all have similar side effects. i was taking gabapentine but they made me paraniod and thats when most the probs started. thank you for the link i will take a look at it
Posted 10/5/2008 5:15 PM (GMT 0)

Hey there, looking at your list I am wondering about the Tramadol.  I used that med for awhle and had weird sx on it.  I just did not feel normal and I think it was reacting with my antidepressant.

Something to talk with your PCP about.

Your welcome for the link.

Kitt

Posted 10/5/2008 5:21 PM (GMT 0)
i have been taking tramodol for about ten years if i dont take i amin so much pain i cant walk wih is why they are now trying to introduce a new med like the . pregabalin to eventually stop the tramodol. i have a prolapsed disc and crumbling spine.i do start a pain managment clinic for managing my pain soon and i will have the oportunity to talk to a phsycologist then but not one to on. the reason i signed up here is cos i neede the help help now as i know i have been wrong and i want to try and pt things right and ep my partner
Posted 10/5/2008 6:43 PM (GMT 0)
Can you write down what you feel like you do here and then give it to your partner to read? You seem to express yourself quite well here on the forum so maybe a letter would be the thing to do. That way you can get your feelings across. Something to think about. I can't talk very well to people that I care about. So I write letters and give them to them, or make a card. It really helps.

best wishes for a wonderful day.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 10/5/2008 8:03 PM (GMT 0)
i have 3 times wrote a letter but not given it to him
Posted 10/5/2008 10:24 PM (GMT 0)

Perhaps now is the opportunity to give him the letters.  It is your decision of course.

On the Tramadol if you are used to it and have been taking it along time then it is probably not causing your sx.

Keep talking to us.

Kitt

Posted 10/5/2008 10:31 PM (GMT 0)
i have registered at moodgym. but i do feel that i need to talk to someone as wel as going thru moodgym. i cant function properly right now i cant concentrate i cant eat or drink im scared to take my tablets because it has crossed my mind that i want to take all of them. i have decided to email him the letters i wrote.but he isnt likely to get them tonight. he left here 4 this afternoon telling me he needed to think and its now 11.30pm im so engulfed in thi feling of feer i dont know what to do
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