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the way things have bin going, I really think he's just being nice when he says we can be friends again... you have to think of yourself now and move on..

Hi Confused,  I have read all of the posts of your situation and this is how I see it.  This person is your ex.  That means you are no longer together.  He has deleted you from email, myspace, etc.  That to me sounds like he does not want to be in contact with you.  You are probably making him feel you are too needy and it does look that way.  If you are studying to be a dr. you are obviously a very intelligent and compassionate person.  Becoming a dr. takes a lot of hard, hard work and I think that right now the best thing to do is try to stop yourself from thinking of your ex, concentrate on your studies, see your friends when you have time to socialize and basically just change your life.  If a relationship is what you are looking for, right now may not be a good time.  You need so much time for your studies.  Are you actually in med school right now or pre-med?  And you may not realize this but the time people usually meet one another is when you are not looking for somone.  If the day comes that your ex wants to talk to you then you should do it on his terrms.  Frankly, I don't think this guy is worth all your trouble.  You have many other friends who value you and your friendship and that is most important.  I am much older than you, divorced 25 yrs and have had several other relationships.  One in particular that was very painful when we split up but I made up my mind that I wasn't going to be happy until I really had this person out of my life - no more contact at all.  And that worked the best.  So if you want your life to improve kick this guy to the curb and concentrate on the most important things in your life.  I know I sound way too preachy but experience has been my teacher.  And by the way my ex husband and I are good friends now. So it may be possible to be friends again one day but by then you may not even care.  I really do understand your pain so please don't take my words as being too harsh.  I want you to be happy.  Take care of yourself and please post how you are doing.

Gentle hugs,

Aurora

ohh, there is an old song called "I will survive" listen to it it may help you...

He could be just ignoring it Confused. Please don't get your hopes up. You are so obsessed with this guy, and you are losing sight on what is important in your life. You have been going through this for about a year. I think it is time to move on. If he contacts you, then he does. But you are just pushing him away by trying to contact him again. Give the poor guy a break. And start caring about you. The healthy way. Like Aurora said. You are going into a medical profession. That should be your main goal right now. You should be passionate about that. If you aren't, you are just wasting time and money on something that isn't meant to be. Because you need to love what you do, especially if you want to become a doctor. No matter what Confused, I want to see you happy. And chasing after this guy is not making you happy. It is hurting you. Start loving yourself. You deserve to.

Hugs, Karen

trying2getby me 2 I wish I could just do some of the things I say...

he is playing mind games with me. earlier this yr he asked me if i can sleep w. a guy here at school and have it on web cam for him so he can see me during the act (since we live so far away from each other and he can't see me now). i said no way and i said i was very hurt with what he said and to never ask me that again. today he had the nerve to ask my friend (who he's never met before) to be friends on facebook and he sent her a message saying he wants to be friends w. her on facebook so he can find out about my life. my friend blocked him then texted him and told him never to contact her again and that she doesn't want to be his friend. she also said the only reason she contacted him was to find out why he's still ignoring me (cuz i asked her to). she told him that if he wants to find out about my life he can call me. my friends and family are telling me that he's weird and playing mind games w. me. my mom thinks he wants to find out about my life so that when im happy one day (in another relationship) he'll contact me again to make my life worse and make me feel bad about myself. do you agree this is what he's doing?

I too think this is mind games this guy is playing with you.  How much worse off will you be if he turns around, gets in touch with you and then pulls the same nonsense all over. The only way you are going to find any peace is to stop asking about him, stop texting, or contacting on any internet sight, just stop all of it.  Don't ask your friends about him, just get him out of your life for good.  He is not someone you want even as a friend if he acts the way he does.  He is pulling your chain.  And you know what?  He may even be enjoying this game.  So please help yourself and go on with your life.  You are much too much a valuable person to accept this treatment.  I know you can forget about him - I did it, its not easy but you can do it.  Take care of yourself.

Many hugs,

Aurora

I agree here, playing mind games and asking you to go on cam with another guy is very wierd, ignore him from now on, I would block him if I were you it's about time to move on with your life..