Is it really over?

Yesterday, my husband of 19 years said goodbye.  We've been separated since July and he's been living in a hotel.  We have two beautiful girls and he's been a great father.  He was diagnosed with depression in Oct. and has been on meds over two weeks.  Last weekend, he said he wanted to work toward reconciling and was finally starting to "feel" happy/sad thoughts again.  He also told me his business was failing and he had to fire people in his business and make a pay cut for Dec.  The next day, I cried my eyes out and asked him if he really wanted to reconcile or was it because of the money situation?  He said it was because he really wanted to reconcile.  He went to counseling on Mon. and by yesterday, told me it was over.  He just didn't want to hurt me and the girls anymore or cause so much pain.  He said he was a failure and it was his fault.  How can a person change their mind so quickly?  Think it's because the pain is just too much for him to deal with right now?  We don't have the money to file for a divorce but I think I might have to create more boundaries and say "no" to him ever coming back into the house except x-mas day.  I'm so devasted and lost.  Anyone else ever experience this?

I agree with Kitt. Your husband has made a first step by seeking help for depression. That is a major step. Now he needs time and space for the medication and treatment to work. Meanwhile you must concentrate on your own life and taking care of your kids. If you really care about him and want to hope for reconciliation that is up to you, but don't depend on his recovery to be happy, because you won't know how long it will take or if it will ever happen. Good luck and God Bless........Ryn