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Hi Horserider02,

I also take effexor and abilify. How long have you been on the abilify? Because it works really well for me. I have ocd type thinking patterns. And the abilify seems to free my mind. I hope that it works for you.

Welcome to the forum. I think that you will like it here. Keep on posting as we are here for you.

Best wishes,
hugs, Karen

Heej Horserider!

Welcome to HW!

Kitt is right (as usual ). Breaking up is almost never easy. And hé, your reasons to be depressed are just as valid as someone who lost his or her entire life in an instant, or someone who, well, hurt his toe. It is different for everybody, so please don't judge your situation.

For now, just take little steps at a time. Trying to run while you need to learn to walk will only make you fall. True friends don't give up on you, but you might have given up on them. Maybe you could call some, there reactions might surprise you!

And Horserider, there are so many wonderful members here, it might help a bit if you stick around and tell your mind. Some things you just don't want to say, but you can here. No one will judge you for it. I have some secrets myself as well, but a couple of members here know them. Though it ain't much, it did help me a lot.

Take care!
Erik

thank you guys for your responses.
ive been on ambilify for a couple months now...im on a pretty low dosage because it made me feel sick when i first started...
sometimes it is so hard to get out of bed in the morning. like i literally love my ex boyfriend...and even though im only 18 i feel as though hes the only for me and i will never be over him. and knowing we cant be together makes it very hard. plus, on top of it all, losing some friends who i had been friends with for years has been really difficult. i feel like im failing at everything and i dont really know how to keep getting through each day when i am absolutely miserable.

Heej Horserider!

I somewhat know what you are going through right now. As you I am 18, and had a similar situation a few years ago. But the truth is, others will be out there somewhere. There isn't a single perfect friend, because nobody is perfect, and everybody is perfect. What help me a lot was to realize that my love wasn't genuine, that it was just a rush of hormones and thoughts that made me feel that way. I came to the conclusion that true love is based on the happiness of the others. Obviously, that girl didn't love me, and if I where truly in love with her I would accept that and hoped that another guy or maybe girl would provide her with the joy she deserves. It might sound abstract, but it definitely helped me to overcome it, and to be more compassionate towards all living things (including myself!).

You seem to be your own worst enemy, as a lot of us are. Maybe you can try to treat yourself kindly, give compliments to yourself whenever you have done something good, even as small as going out of bed. Take time to do the things you want to do. You are a person as well, and you deserve just as much love and attention as others.

All the best!
Erik