My wife and I had a marriage everyone was jealous of for 22 years. Less than a year ago she says she isn't happy now. Lost the desire to do as much around the house. Started drinking more. Hanging around with other wives who were having marital problems. Spending more money trying to stay young. Listening to younger music. Now she is not sure if she is in love with me but says she still loves me. Sex is now every two weeks when she is about ready to burst when it used to be every 2 or 3 days. Used to be more exotic as well. Now just jump on and orgasm. I originally and maybe still think it's perimenopause and probably combined with depression. We're seeing a marriage counselor and when asked what would make her happy she said she doesn't know. Depression and anxiety run in her family. Did the blood tests to find out about perimenopause after going off the birth control for a week and hormones checked out although she has every symptom ther is. So did thyroid test. I understand that the blood test is unreliable for perimenopause. She exercises a lot and is on birth control so I'm thinking that she might have been in perimenopause for a couple years already but slightly masked. Going to the doc today for an antidepressant. Hopefully Wellbutrin from what I've read. Any comments are welcome.