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Posted 3/18/2009 12:18 PM (GMT 0)
I feel lonely even when surrounded by people. I feel like this few years ago. I have good friends and great family, they care about me. I can say I have good job but I feel that I am not successful at all. I really want to change it but I feel like stuck here where I am losing my confident everyday). I do gym, hang out with friends. I study my master without big success so far. I am single for 5 years, any serious relationship these years... I am interested in photography and attend course. I am going lot things trying motivating myself the better will come but … something missing. I am unhappy all time, my face look sad. I want to go away somewhere far from here but I know I will be same me. I am 30 years old and I don’t know still what I want and why I feel unhappy, lonely and empty. I just want to find out what I miss and what I really want and need in this life. Or all these feelings should be normal life stage? I’m lost in life.
Posted 3/18/2009 12:41 PM (GMT 0)

hi metipi, i am jamiee, male, 37. firstly welcome to the community.

you are possibly at a crossroads in your life. please be assured that everyone in there life time will experience a similar situation. it sounds like you need to find you. if you are able, i would recommend meditation and maybe journaling. sometimes getting the things you want out of life in written form helps. sometimes less is more, yes do the things that stimulate you. it is a good sign that your mind and body and heart are yearning for something. thanx for your courage and posting your sitauation.

remain positive metipi, you are a unique individual of this earth with special abilities only you have. keep posting.

blessings 2 u. jamiee

iddm, endogenous depression, severe borderline personality disorder, hormone deficiency, diabetic nuropathy, (feet) and some bits and peices.

Posted 3/18/2009 12:51 PM (GMT 0)
First of all God designed us to have mates and that could be some of your feelings of unhappy lonely and empty. However that does not mean to settle for just anybody as it could make you even more unhappy. I experienced the loneliness after the death of my first husband. I described it as feeling alone in the middle of a thousand people. It is a devastating feeling. It sounds like you are doing all the right things to stay busy and motivated and yes I think some of it is just an age issue ie why am I not further in my career, why don`t I have this yet etc. Life can be so overwhelming at times and your feelings are normal. Just keep getting out and doing things and if you cannot shake these feelings very soon seek pro help. Keep posting here as all here are very understanding and supportive. This site has been a god send for me.
Posted 3/18/2009 3:45 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Metipi,

I would like to welcome you to HealingWell. This is a wonderful forum with wonderful members. Everybody is so kind and compassionate.

I agree with the above statement that you could be at a crossroads in your life. I also agree with the meditation and journaling. It really helps to find your inner self.

You are doing all of the right things, so keep on trying. And of course we are here for you.

I hope that you have a wonderful day.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 3/18/2009 4:05 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you guys :)
I agree with you I need someone to share my life with. But who will like me with this sad face independence how I look and all my displease about myself :(. I act like lost case and afraid by failure at work and private therefore I got it. I am sure, my collages and manager treat my work not well at all. They don’t give any urgent or high priority task:(. All this has been express un motivated on me. And the failure is here.
Posted 3/18/2009 6:09 PM (GMT 0)
Welcome to the forums.

Yours is a common voice here on the forums, one that I have shared many times. Its difficult to break the cycle of isolation and depression once it begins, it seems to build upon itself until it is too much to escape out from under. Please don't be discouraged though, in my experience the smallest thing can break this cycle and turn your life and attitude around. Do your best to smile and take refuge in the pleasures that you can, try to keep pushing forward as hard as you can, a little can go a long way. If you try to take time for yourself, do what makes you happy, put a smile on that face, I'm sure things will turn around for you.

In any case, we are here for you and will help you through it.
Posted 3/20/2009 2:06 PM (GMT 0)
Zapped,

You will see that God is mentioned now and then, such as "amy God be with you" or "God bless you". That is as far as it is suppose to go. I know that some people have a tendancy to add more than they should. But what we mainly try to stop is the so called preaching.

So I hope that you are not offended by a slight mention of God, because it will be here, but when it gets too heavy, we try to put a stop to it. There was a member that was mentioning it a lot, but he hasn't posted as of late. So nothing was said to him.

So you may read it once in a while, please don't be offended by it. It is for comfort measures. We just don't allow people to elaberate on the subject.

have a great day,
hugs, Karen
Posted 3/20/2009 4:07 PM (GMT 0)

Good Morning,

Karen is right about the mentioning of God.  To add to her comments the rules read:

10. No posts of an overtly political or religious nature OR posts promoting advocacy of particular personal, medical, legal, religious, political, or non-profit causes.  The forums are intended for offering mutual personal support.  Debating controversial subjects should be taken elsewhere.  Limited religious references are allowed (ie. "my prayers are with you" or a brief quote as part of a larger post), but the forums should not be used to convert others. 

At this point I do not see anyone trying to convert others but just as a gentle reminder to the members, do be careful in your posts.

I wish you all peace.

Kitt

Posted 3/21/2009 1:11 PM (GMT 0)

metipi:  I am sorry to hear that you are having such a difficult time.  I would definately follow the recommendations that others have posted.  But one thing you said reminded me of myself and the first job I had about 20 years ago.  Like you I felt I wasn't doing well at my job.  And some of the tasks were more mundane than that of my coworkers. I struggled greatly with this job and ultimately it was not meant to be for me.  But that was just me. This could be very different for you. I have some questions for you and maybe if you replied back with the answers perhaps I could help you better.

First, how long have you been at this job?

Second, have you had any performance reviews yet?  Or has your boss provided you with any kind of feedback?

Third, how is your relationship with your coworkers?  Do you or have you ever needed assistance from them?

Last, are there any positives about your job that you would like to share?

...........write back and I will do all that I can to help you in this area.  You are not alone.

Cass


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