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Posted 3/22/2009 4:49 AM (GMT 0)
sad I just need someone to listen and give me advice on how to deal with the loss of my friend because my life sucks without him and all i can do is cry, but all i want is for someone to comfort me, but i dont have that, i just really miss him and although i know he'll always be with me and protecting me i cant accept the fact that hes gone.. like i'm seriously hurting, i'm a wreck all i want is him back in my life, i would love to see him at least for 1 second to tell him how much i love him, i miss him so much, and im all alone, literally i have no one, just him to comfort me in my dreams, i don't know how to stay strong anymore it just hurts too much
Posted 3/22/2009 11:29 AM (GMT 0)
mx,

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Please know that what you're going through is normal, and this intense pain you feel right now will become less and less with time. Also know that even though you can't see your friend as you wish you could, you CAN still talk to him. And he will hear you. And if you listen/watch for signs, you may hear him too. Although he is no longer with you physically, he is still with you spiritually. Know that he wants you to be happy, and to enjoy the people in your life, those you have yet to meet, and life experiences that will make you laugh and fill your heart with peace and joy. It's OK to to miss your friend. You may always miss him. But the pain will lessen with each day. It's also good to consider counseling to get through this trying time.

Blessings,
NW
Posted 3/22/2009 2:05 PM (GMT 0)
MX,

Something you might want to think about is grief counseling. That really helps through these difficult times.

I am so sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is, but it does get easier with time. This is your time to grieve and do it as you will. There are no rights and wrongs, no time limits. This is yours to embrace and take it as you will.

Know that we are all here for you throughout this difficult time.

Karen
Posted 3/22/2009 2:52 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you both sooo much for replying it means alot! i feel like he's sooo close yet so far away, thinking about him makes me cry, and i know he wouldn't want that but i can't help it, i talk to people about it and say i'm not emotional, and i don't let them see me break, my voice cracks but i don't allow them to see me cry, i used to open up to people easily but not anymore, because i feel that the more you let people see that you're vulnerable they eventually take advantage of that, and when i would cry in front of people, rarely did anyone care, i really thought about taking counseling but i have put it off, but i might go, but i feel like they'll be like "oh you're 18 its normal for you to feel like you're alone".
Posted 3/22/2009 3:25 PM (GMT 0)
I don't think a counselor would treat you in that way. Why don't you give it a try. Most therapists are quite compassionate.

You should be happy during these years. So I think you owe it to yourself to try counseling.

I hope that you feel better soon.

Karen
Posted 3/22/2009 5:13 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Mx,

I'm so sorry you're hurting. It's completely understandable given what you've been through. I agree with Karen about counseling.....it is worth a shot, and you will probably be pleasantly surprised at how compassionate a counselor can be (as she said). You deserve the very best chance at healing you can get, and I hope you will consider talking to someone. It's good that you posted here.....the members are very supportive and accepting. Best wishes to you.
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