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Posted 4/8/2009 4:19 AM (GMT 0)
ok i will thank you again for everything you are a really amazing person!!!! im glad there is people like you in this world i dont know how some of us would make it without people like you!!! i truly dont, thank you again

Post Edited (superdepressed) : 4/7/2009 10:28:14 PM (GMT-6)

Posted 4/8/2009 4:26 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you for the compliment, Super. It means a lot to me to think that I have helped you in some way. I think you're amazing, too! I know you will get through this, my friend. :-)
Posted 4/8/2009 7:39 AM (GMT 0)
to super, close your eyes, visualize something beautiful, something interesting, float with the experience, i am alluding to meditation. time my friend, write, journal, express, otherwise that memory will stay stronger of your girl in your mind if you don't. compassion to you. raniah is a wealth of compassion - good on ya raniah with your committement to super. luv, jamiee.

Posted 4/8/2009 12:19 PM (GMT 0)

Good Mornig SD,

I am sorry you had the meltdown at school and I can identify with that as I have melted in public more then once.  Please do not beat yourself up about feeling sad.  I have had depression for tweenty some years now and I know that you will have good days, weeks, years ahead of you so with a lot of support and hopefully some therapy you will  start to feel better soon.

Have you ever tried meditation?

We often waste way too much of our time and energy focusing on what we don't like, what we're worried about, or what we think needs to be fixed, changed, or enhanced.

There are great things happening in your life and around you all the time.

Celebrate the good stuff around you, in others, and in yourself.

Meditation

Choose a quiet spot where you will not be disturbed by other people or by the telephone.

Sit quietly in a comfortable position.

Eliminate distractions and interruptions during the period you'll be meditating.

Commit yourself to a specific length of time and try to stick to it.

Pick a focus word or short phrase that's firmly rooted in your personal belief system. A non-religious person might choose a neutral word like one, peace, or love. Others might use the opening words of a favorite prayer from their religion such as 'Hail Mary full of Grace', "I surrender all to you", "Hallelujah", "Om", etc.

Close your eyes. This makes it easy to concentrate.

Relax your muscles sequentially from head to feet. This helps to break the connection between stressful thoughts and a tense body. Starting with your forehead, become aware of tension as you breathe in. Let go of any obvious tension as you breathe out. Go through the rest of your body in this way, proceeding down through your eyes, jaws, neck, shoulders, arms, hands, chest, upper back, middle back and midriff, lower back, belly, pelvis, buttocks, thighs, calves, and feet.

Breathe slowly and naturally, repeating your focus word or phrase silently as you exhale.

Assume a passive attitude. Don't worry about how well you're doing. When other thoughts come to mind, simply say, "Oh, well," and gently return to the repetition.

Continue for 10 to 20 minutes. You may open your eyes to check the time, but do not use an alarm. After you finish: Sit quietly for a minute or so, at first with your eyes closed and later with your eyes open. Do not stand for one or two minutes.

Plan for a session once or twice a day.

Take care and keep on talking to us.  We are here for you.

I wish you peace,

Kitt


 

Posted 4/9/2009 2:26 AM (GMT 0)
ok hmmmm i love the meditation idea im gonna try that i dont really no what my word should be though i definitely cant use love because that is the one thing making me the saddest right now.... i need to find something that has no relation to my ex-girlfriend and i think thats gonna be pretty hard to do seeing how we were together for close to 2 years....and we did alot of things together...thank you all again for the support and care i appreciate it
Posted 4/9/2009 3:58 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Super,

I don't know if you will relate to this idea or not, but I use the word "peace" when I am feeling upset or stressed......and I also use the phrase "heal me" when I am feeling in need of some care or comfort. Just to give you a couple of more ideas.

I hope you are doing well.
Posted 4/9/2009 4:14 AM (GMT 0)
o yeah those are great ideas im gonna try that tonight....idk i did something really stupid last night but i was desperate to make the pain go away....and like yeah i dont think im gonna ever do it again but the scary part is it made me feel better.....
Posted 4/9/2009 4:28 AM (GMT 0)
Super,

Whatever it is that you did (and please make sure you are aware of the site posting rules before you mention it, if you are thinking of doing so), I hope you will consider the fact that you deserve the best help you can get, and that includes the help that you give to yourself. I know that you are going through a very rough time right now, but you need to take care of yourself in the best way you know how. You are worth that much.

I am happy to see that you are thinking about the idea that Kitt proposed re: meditation. It's really very helpful!! It's relaxing, and it helps you to get your focus away from the things that are troubling you.

I also hope you will consider the websites that Karen has posted. I've heard that they're really good, and have been helpful to a lot of people.

I hope that you have a good night tonight, and hope you're still thinking of some kind of activity you can get involved in to make yourself feel better and find some moments of happiness. I'm really pulling for you, and I hope you know that we all care about you.
Posted 4/9/2009 4:41 AM (GMT 0)
yeah i wouldnt want to ever do anything against the rules idk what i would do if i couldnt get support from you guys it is seriously a huge stress reliever to be able to talk to you guys and get ideas on how to help myself...ive been looking into activities i can do im gonna do everything in my power to get involved in something i promise!!!! Thanks everyone again i appreciate anyone and everyone that has taken time out of there day to try and help me or even just talk to me.
Posted 4/9/2009 4:44 AM (GMT 0)
I think you'll do just great, Super. I have so much faith in you.
Posted 4/9/2009 3:04 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Super,

I use a senseless word for my meditation. It is four sylables (sp). I breathe in on one and out on the other ect. My mantra is um-nell-ee-yom. and it works. It has no meaning to it, so that way my mind doesn't wander. I just keep focussing on that word. Maybe you could make one up, or use mine. I think it would help with the meditation.

Keep trying, you are a wonderful person and you deserve to feel good.

Best wishes for a lovely day.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 4/26/2009 9:21 PM (GMT 0)
blah.... update ive been trying to get better.....i would say im deffinetlly better then when i first posted and i would like to thank everyone again for the help...im using that meditation technique a lot it seems to work for a while. yeah idk i still like for no reason just get super depressed ill be happy one minute and then all of a sudden i feel like poo idk what to do about that. i tried using the meditation technique for when that happens but i cant seem to center myself....
Posted 4/26/2009 10:03 PM (GMT 0)
The meditation just takes practice. Every minute that you spend meditating, you are getting that much closer to being centered. And when you practice, you are actually doing it. Before you know, you will have set for a half of an hour with ease, that is all it takes. Eventually, you will have it mastered. Don't give up.

I hope that you continue to feel better. Keep posting.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 4/26/2009 11:26 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Super,

I'm glad you came back! I have been wondering where you were and how you were doing. It's good that you have been using meditation to help yourself. Karen is right.....every time you practice meditation, you will get better at it and benefit further from the effects. How is it going with the activity part of your life? Have you found something that captures your interest? I hope so! I really want you to find some happiness in your life. We all have good days and bad days, but I don't want you to have "super depressed" days. I have been thinking about your mom, too, and I'm not asking you to talk about it if you don't want to, but please know that you are both in my prayers. Hang in there, Super, and please continue to post!
Posted 5/12/2009 9:18 AM (GMT 0)
ok well i finally got over my ex and well i went to party this last weekend and ended up meeting a girl she told me she was 18 and we kinda of hit it off she ended up kissing me and we ended up cuddling the whole night and thats it but like i really started to have feelings for her and i thought she could make a really good gf....then the next day she came up to me and was like hey i have something i have to tell you and i feel really bad about not be straight forward with you and not telling you to begin with but im 15.....seriously this was like a fist to the face...i really couldnt believe it because this girl was and is really mature and super nice i mean ive only dated girls older then me and this girl was way more mature then any of them....idk what to do anymore its like my life finally looks like its going up for a brief moment and right when im about to come over that hill thats been holding me back for soooo long someone throws a bolder down the hill at me and it runs me over....sigh i feel like a horrible person i really cared for this girl and i know i cant anymore because of the age difference....idk i hope what i posted wasnt against the rules i read them and idk if this falls under something that would be against the rules i apologize in advance if it is
Posted 5/12/2009 12:03 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Super,

It's not your fault that this girl lied to you about her age. I know it seems like things are happening to you to bring you down, but this was a case of someone else doing something that you had no control over. I'm really sorry.....I hate to see you in pain, and you certainly did not deserve this. It's good that you were able to get over your ex, and in doing that you know that you will be able to get through this, too. (((hugs))) Don't let someone else's deceit make you think less of yourself. You're a really good person!
Posted 5/13/2009 12:54 AM (GMT 0)
ok thank you sorry i just kinda needed to vent i wasnt doing very well last night
Posted 5/13/2009 1:19 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Super,

This is a great place to vent. I'm glad you came back, and I hope you are feeling better.
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