cannot stop hurting & loving at the same time

I had a terrible breakup 2 weeks ago. I hate him for all the pain he's caused me yet i still have feelings for him. i want to just be over him but each day it seems like i am no closer to that. it seems like he left me for a girl who was threatening me while we were still together and it hurts. it hurts so much. i am sad.

Hi Kali-Nikki, I know from your other thread that your boyfriend was an important source of support for you, and someone who really understood you and your feelings. I'm so sorry the two of you broke up. It's natural to go through a grieving period, and two weeks is not a long period of time for some people. Everyone is on their own schedule when it comes to dealing with a painful loss, and it may take some time before you are able to move on. Be gentle with yourself, and allow yourself to shed the tears and release the pain. PSA is right....you should focus on creating your own support group, which of course includes us here. He's also right about the idea that God has something better in store for you. I know it's hard to see it now, but there are other things awaiting you in your life, and as you heal from this experience, you will be able to move forward. Do you have access to any counseling in your area? Or is there some sort of counseling facility at your university? I think I remember reading on your other thread that you are finishing up with university in the coming year. I really think it could be a wonderful thing, especially with the pain you've been in because of your family situation and your recent breakup. I think you mentioned before that you had tried counseling once, but I hope you will consider trying it again. Hang in there, and please keep posting with us.

hi guys. sorry i have not written for the past days. i am still around trying to occupy my time. its hard but im trying.

Hi Kali-Nikki I see that you have made this thread before the other one. about the break-up do you have a relationship with GOD? because he can help you if you do. try and remmeber that GOD loves you and cares for you, and try to spend time with your friends away from home since you don't seem to enjoy it much at home. good luck to you and keep comming back we like to hear how you are doing, peace..

Hi Kali-Nikki, I understand so well what you are going through. My son just broke his engagement.  The wedding was all planned, they had been together for 4 yrs and she had a major melt down and emotional disconnect.  He was devastated.  But he is determined to get over her.  She is in a different city so he doesn't ever have to see her.  It has been painful for me and my family also as we were so anticipating this lovely wedding.  But it is over and we are all doing the best to put it behind.  My son has good days and bad days but the good days are happening more. He also got into counseling and that has made a big difference. So if you can try to find some counseling and if this is truly over then you have to accept it and move on.  Please understand that there is another person out there that will be the right one for you.  You just have to give this time.  Feeling grief takes a while to pass and you need to take as much time as you need. And if you stop all contact with your ex you will be doing yourself a favor as it will be easier to get over.  I wish you the very best. Post and let us know how you are doing.

Aurora