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Posted 6/18/2009 1:40 AM (GMT 0)
I just dont know what to do i have this girl and i think i love her but i don't know if she wants me back and she broke up with me 1 and 1/2 years since and i still think about her but a half a year later she ask if we could get back together and i said no and i think i made the worst desision and i know i want back with her and i cant ask her cuz i dont want my heart broken again and after that break-up i was such an ass she asked if we could be friends then i said idk then i didn't realize that she was the best thing for me
Posted 6/18/2009 2:32 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Emotions, I'm sorry about your situation. I know you must be hurting a lot right now, not knowing what this girl will say if you approach her. I think you will have to decide what will be the better solution here: to try to get back together with her, and see what she has to say....or to leave things the way that they are right now, with no communication between you two.....or to try to be friends with her without the romantic involvement. You will never know how she will react or what she will say unless you talk to her. Anytime we want something in life, it involves a risk for us, when we don't know whether or not it will work out. You will need to decide if you are willing to take that risk. I really hope things will work out for you, and if you feel up to talking some more, there are lots of people here who are great listeners. Take good care of yourself, and please keep us posted.
Posted 6/18/2009 3:14 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Emotions,

I second what Raniah said. In order to find out how she feels now, you have to take a chance. We get our hearts broken but they mend and life goes on. There could be many broken hearts, but you learn and grow from it. So if you want to know how she feels, talk to her.

And keep posting, as we are all here for you.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 6/18/2009 4:49 AM (GMT 0)
I agree with Raniah and Karen. You will never know until you try. Yes, this may be difficult for you but if you do truly do love her, then it is worth the risk. I know. You'll know if you read my posts that I truly understand your situation. I am always here to listen. Don't be afraid to confront her and find out how she feels about being with you. If it doesn't work out the way you want, that doesn't mean it never will. She may not want what you want, only at the moment. So, don't push her away if it doesn't go as planned. However, if it does work out as planned, I will have your relationship in my thoughts. I wish you only the best. Don't hesitate to keep posting. We care and we want to make sure you are okay.

 

Keep us updated.

Posted 6/18/2009 4:53 AM (GMT 0)
Hi emotions -- I have to agree with Karen and Raniah. From personal experience, I know how it feels to want to express yourself and feeling like you can't. I would try to think about what's the worst thing that could happen...she turns you down. Then at least you'll know that it wasn't meant to be and won't always wonder what would have happened. Maybe it will even help you to move on and find the person who IS right for you. That would give me more peace than always wondering, but only you can make that decision. One of my favorite Lucille Ball quotes..."I would rather regret the things that I have done than the things that I have not." :-)

Maybe you would feel better about approaching her if you really thought long and hard about what you will say and why things didn't work out the first time around. Do you feel that you have grown emotionally since the breakup? What made you realize that it will work now? Things like that.

Know that whatever happens, you'll be OK!

NW
Posted 6/18/2009 7:20 AM (GMT 0)
hey, emotions. agree with all. no reward without risk. follow your heart. all the best, jamie
Posted 6/18/2009 11:42 AM (GMT 0)

give it another go, put your cards on the table- be bold and see where you stand. you may kick yourself if you never try. youve been given great advice- take care and keep us posted,

Maz XX

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