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Posted 6/23/2009 7:36 AM (GMT 0)

shakehead  I truly do not have the strength to explain everything that happened this past week.

You pretty much know my whole situation with my ya know "forbidden boyfriend".If you don't, you can see what it's about in my other threads, "To Love or Not to Love?" and "Forbidden Love...Complications Indeed".

 

For now I'll just tell you that this past week was horrible.I was yelled at by my parents and called numerous names such as a little *****,tramp,hoe,etc.I was kicked out of the house,threatened by my parents to send me to Michigan with my grandmother,and followed by a strange man until I was lost by him in a crowd of basketball players when I was kicked out.I was terrified.I have never had to walk the streets,much less alone with no phone or any type of way to contact anyone.It was so bad.My feelings were just trampeled all over.I have never felt so scared and alone in my life.This was all on top of the arguement that I had with my boyfriend the other night.I did finally talk to him though.I'll post about that later when I have the strength to really express myself.

 

I don't know why I even posted this not really telling you anything that really happened in detail.I'm sorry.I just needed someone to tell.I'll post what truly happened later.I hope you can help me.I need it.

 

P.S. Just to reassure you, in case you were worried or wondering, I am at home and safe now.

Posted 6/23/2009 8:31 AM (GMT 0)
very glad you are safe cedabug. very glad. i hope you stay safe, so sorry for what has transpired. glad you posted. reaching out takes all forms, and am glad you posted today. pls rest. and while you are safe take some much needed time for yourself. we are here for you. keep us updated if alright with you. luving healings, jamie
Posted 6/23/2009 5:03 PM (GMT 0)
Cedabug, I'm sorry for what you went through, and I'm glad you made it back home where you were safe. I don't believe that name calling solves anything, and IMO, it is definitely a form of verbal and emotional abuse. I can only imagine that your parents resorted to this out of desperation and concern, although that does not excuse what they did. I see that you have posted another thread, so I will go and read that now.
Posted 6/24/2009 1:53 AM (GMT 0)
Cedabug,
I am very worried about you. In a prior post I think you mentioned that you were 15. If you are under 18 & are kicked out of your house by your parents, that is illegal. Please call the police if that happens again as it is not safe for you to be out on the streets by yourself (as you have already seen). If you are too nervous to call the police yourself, you can call 1-800-RUNAWAY. I know you are not a runaway, but the people at the National Runaway Switchboard (NRS) also help a lot of youths who are kicked out of their homes by their parents. They answer calls 24/7 and are there even if you just want someone to talk you. They can help talk to your parents, set up appointments with counselors, find you a safe place to stay if you have been kicked out of your home, or help you file a police report when you're ready to do that.

It sounds like you are bright & certainly very brave, but no one is prepared to live on the streets at age 15 -- honestly, I don't know of any adults who could live on the streets without getting hurt a lot and getting into trouble, sometimes when it wasn't even their fault. I'm glad that you feel you can talk to your boyfriend's cousin, but I know his ability to help you would be limited by the law (the law says that adults cannot let youth under the age of 18 stay with them unless they have been given permission by the youth's parents). The NRS can help find you a safe place to stay & work with your parents and/or the courts/Family Services to arrange for you to stay legally with a safe, responsible adult.

I am so sorry for everything you are going through. I know from experience how devastating it is to be in love & have your parents forbid you to see the person. I tried sneaking around & such, but eventually had to back off the relationship. It was very sad, but ultimately parents do have the final word on those things until the youth turns 18. I wish it weren't so, and perhaps by talking with your parents or getting a mediator involved, there is a way to get them to agree to let you see your boyfriend, but please be careful in the meantime. Love is so powerful, but it is not worth risking your life over. Real love will survive until you are able to see each other again (kinda like the trees go into hibernation over the winter, but then bloom as beautiful as ever in the Spring). Try to hang in there & be patient until you are able to be together with him again.

take care,
Frances
Posted 6/24/2009 1:54 AM (GMT 0)
Hi cetabug,

I too am happy to know that you are safe and at home. I hope that everything works out for you.

Take care,

Hugs, Karen
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