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Posted 10/16/2009 11:19 PM (GMT 0)
i am scared of death and i am suffering from s.a.d. an i just want someone that has advise to help me cope with my fear and i am doing this because i do not have a counsler yet anybody want to help me out i am young and scared?
Posted 10/17/2009 12:24 AM (GMT 0)
Welcome to HW. Its normal to be afraid of death, im sure people dont look forward to it, but it sounds like its a fear that is controlling your life. If I give you some website links would you look them up? I think you would find them very helpful.

Are you in the process of finding a counsellor? If you are still at school or college you are entitled to see a guidance/counsellor.

 

Where do you think your fear of death comes from? Have you lost loved ones?

 

Im going to post you some links-

 

Maz XX

 

CBT thread

https://www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=9&m=734325 

Relaxation thread

https://www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=9&m=759232 

ZEN for Everyday Living

https://www.healingwell.com/library/anxiety/article.asp?author=hoang&id=1 

Free CBT Online/MoodGYM 

http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome

E-couch Online, free

http://ecouch.anu.edu.au/welcome

Teen depression & associated issues:

Nine.org

Posted 10/17/2009 2:49 AM (GMT 0)
yeah well i just cant stop thinking about immortality and its staring to effect my grades at shcool and i hope the counsler will start getting me on track. yeah i will look at these websites thank you very much and here where i live its been very cloudy and gloomy for the past month and i suffer from S.a.d. and the weather is not helping and i just cant stop thinking about immortality and i am very feerfull. i did lose my older sister a while ago.

Posted 10/17/2009 4:29 AM (GMT 0)
You have one of those boxes of light? You need to have one, I did and it really did help. I would sit in front of it while drinking coffee in the morning and that is all it took.

If you truly fear death, then you learn how to love life. Make the most out of every day. Stop thinking about death, because that is something that we can't control. You can't worry about things that are out of your control.

People have different thoughts on death. I grew up with the bible, so I am hoping that there is life after death. And if there isn't, oh well, I wont know the difference now will I?

So I make the most out of every day, take nothing for granted. Life really is short. The older you get, the faster it goes. So enjoy, enjoy, enjoy... That is all that you can do to survive.

Are you seeing a doctor or psychiatrist? You need to discuss this with somebody who can help you to cope with this. Counseling would be the trick, I think. They would teach you how to live. You can't waste your life worrying about dieing. We wont have that. So we will try to help you cope, but you have homework to do. And the ironic thing is we never know when we are going to die. A plane could fall out of the sky tomorrow and take any of us out. So get help with the anxiety of it. You might want to check out the anxiety and panic forum to help you deal with this. They have wonderful members who could really help you. But you have to promise to come back here too.

I hope that you get a grip on things. Try to get some counseling or medication to help you. Counseling, I think would be the best route.

Best wishes

hugs, Karen
Posted 10/17/2009 7:09 AM (GMT 0)
When my son was about 4 we drove by a cemetery and he asked what all the "tall rocks" were for. I told him that they marked the graves of where we buried the bodies of people who had died... but that they didn't really matter because the people were in heaven and the bodies were just turning into dust.

So he asked me, "Mom, when people die do they miss their bodies?"

So I thought a bit and then told him this. "When a little bird is in its shell, all warm and protected from the world under its mommy's warm feathers it feels secure and safe. It thinks its world is perfect. But before long it breaks out of that shell and within weeks it's a fledgling, bouncing from branch to branch of the tree it was born in. Then the day comes that the little bird is soaring in the clouds, dancing on the wind, dipping up and down, flying through the air. When that bird is flying and soaring do you think it ever looks down on those broken egg shell pieces and wishes it was back in the shell?"

He said, "Heccckk NO!" So I told him that is how he will feel at the end of his life when he got to heaven. ... And that's what I believe. Hope this helps you.
Posted 10/17/2009 1:16 PM (GMT 0)
thank you emecnly guys i gave an oppointment set up with a counsler and i will look at the panic and anxiety forums thank you thank you it feels good to talk to someone
Posted 10/17/2009 2:35 PM (GMT 0)
a1213a13,

I am glad that you are feeling better. I think A/P forum would have some answers for you. It does sound like an anxiety thing. Or panic.

I hope that you continue to post with us too. It sounds like you are a little better today.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 10/17/2009 3:05 PM (GMT 0)
i am feeling quite better today but still havent got the energy to go out side and do something but i did go sit on my porch for a hwile and get some sun while it lasted. i have an oppointment for a qounsler this up-coming saterday and i have some of my thughts od death and the end of the world hid away for now. i was just wondering in the previouse comments a ladie mentioned a box of light what would that be?

Sincerly ,
Alex
Posted 10/17/2009 4:17 PM (GMT 0)
Alex,

I answered your questions in the A & P Forum :)

Light therapy is one of the many ways to treat a variety of mental disorders and conditions affected by time changes or shift changes, especially seasonal affective disorder. The light box used in light therapy emits a type and intensity of light that isn't found in normal household lighting. So simply sitting in front of a lamp in your living room is unlikely to relieve your seasonal affective disorder symptoms or other problems.

Similarly, a light box delivers brighter, more focused light than you can find outdoors, which makes it more effective than trying to get enough light exposure by spending time outside — especially on gloomy days.

You can buy a light therapy box over-the-counter, without a doctor's prescription. Internet retailers, drugstores and even some hardware stores offer a wide variety of light therapy boxes and other light devices for seasonal affective disorder treatment.

Before putting down any hard-earned cash, talk to your doctor, mental health provider or pharmacist about the light therapy box you're thinking about buying. He or she may offer additional guidance or tips to make sure that seasonal affective disorder treatment with a light therapy box is both safe and effective for you.

Hope this helps. Take care and know we are here for you,

Kitt
Posted 10/17/2009 4:51 PM (GMT 0)
Well SAD runs geneticly in my family and i will talk to my counsler but i am having sorta a break down right now about death ans life but its good to type this and vent. ill just take dep breaths
Posted 10/17/2009 7:35 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Alex,

I am sorry for what you are going through right now. But remember this is just a fear that you have. Which can lead to anxiety and panic.

Try not to spend your time dwelling on the thought of death. It is inevidable (sp). We all have to go sometime. So in the meantime, try living. Try to stay in the here and now. Think about the things around you. Pay attention to the details, sounds, sights and your feelings. Take life one day at a time. And enjoy. Life can be short. We never know what is in store for us. So instead of wasting your time worrying about something that you can't control. Enjoy the things that you can.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 10/17/2009 7:47 PM (GMT 0)
Hey Alex,

I know you are just 13 which makes it hard for you to make your own appointments with Doctors and counselors but please do talk to your parents or someone that is home now and let them know how you are feeling.

I am wondering if you lost someone close to you to death and perhaps that is at the root of your fear?

I am going to post a link to a site that may help you. It may be good to talk with other teens :)

teencentral : http://www.teencentral.net/

I will see you over in the anxiety forum.

Gentle Hugs,

Kitt
Posted 10/18/2009 8:53 PM (GMT 0)
thank you i am fealing better i have enough energy to get up and go for a walk but i am still feeling bad the thoughts always hit me :( but i have an oppointment made for wednsday thank tou all very much
, alex
Posted 10/19/2009 4:19 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Sweetie,

I am so glad that you were able to go for a walk. It always clears my head when I do. Plus it gives you a little energy. So I hope that you felt better afterwards.

I am glad that you have that appointment with your therapist on Wednesday. I think that it will help you a lot. Does she/he know about the forum? You should tell them about it. It seems to be good for you.

I hope that you have a wonderful day. It is after midnight here, I don't know what time it is there.

Take care

Hugs, Karen
Posted 10/20/2009 9:48 PM (GMT 0)
thank you all i have been getting out and walking a little everyday abut stil cant shakle that feeling and i have alittle more energy enough to stay in school a whole day. yes tomrrow i have an oppointment and i will inform my thereapist about this. you guys have really inmapcted my recovering process and i thank you very much

Alex
Posted 10/22/2009 1:38 AM (GMT 0)
Hunny, I am so glad that you are feeling better. Just wanted to mention that I have SAD lightbox and it does make all the difference for us northerners, I can be working in my basement and that lght makes me feel like I am outside in the sun! I highly recommend it. Good luck. You'll be just fine. Knowing what the problem is is half way to the solution!
Posted 10/22/2009 9:58 AM (GMT 0)
good on you alex. i too used to fear death. and i have lost many. thus i do not worry about it. it is a part of my existance. for me in my befeils, which i will keep annoymous, (forum rules) 3 things are definite. birth, decay and death. for me death is just my beginning. stay safe and look after you. jamie. appreciate your true courage with this situation. many people have a hard time with this. keep being courages. my compassion and understanding. jamie.
Posted 10/22/2009 2:14 PM (GMT 0)
thank you both i had my first therpaist meeting yesterda and it went great she gave me some ways toforget about some of my thoughts and go out ans do things so i get moe ebergy. i think i am getting a light box thats what my thereapist recommended s think ill get one
Posted 10/22/2009 3:11 PM (GMT 0)
Hey Sweetie,

I am so happy for you. It sounds like you have a good therapist. That helps a lot for healing. I am sure that you will soon be able to put all of this behind you.

In the meantime, keep posting. Know that we are all here for you.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 10/22/2009 3:15 PM (GMT 0)
good for you. proud of you. jamie.
Posted 10/22/2009 4:29 PM (GMT 0)
thank you both i think tis forum really helped me
Posted 10/22/2009 5:22 PM (GMT 0)
I am so happy that you are getting help ffrom the forum. That is what it is all about. I am happy that you are feeling beter.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 10/22/2009 5:30 PM (GMT 0)
its hard for me to respond to yuor guyses comments because all i can say is thnk you and you have really helped me get bye. i still have these thiughts but i am clearning to control them andi learned relaxation methods and such but i still lack the energy to do a lot
Posted 10/22/2009 9:50 PM (GMT 0)
Hi there,

Just thought that you might be interested in some of these sites...

http://www.teencentral.net/

http://forums.teenhelp.org/

http://www.teenhut.net/

http://teencentral.net/

Hope that you find these helpful.

Have a great day tongue

Hugs, Karen

Posted 10/22/2009 9:55 PM (GMT 0)

Here is one more for you that was posted by Maz but just to make sure you have the direct link:

http://www.nineline.org/

Take care,

Kitt

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