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Posted 11/24/2009 10:33 AM (GMT 0)
Hi im new to this site

I have suffered with depression and anxiety on and off for the last 20 years have just been diagnosed with it again and been put bac on ad's

I have had a couple of bad years kids leaving home, moved bac in with my parents and got involved with a man who ended it last christmas then decided to get bac in touch with me a couple of months ago and totally used me till he met someone else again which i know just topped thing off hence the depression coming on again. He now wants us to carry on as if we r just friends and nothing happened which i find hard to do as i have strong feelings for this guy and have found myself comparing every other guy to him for the last year.

At the moment i feel very lonley and scared im going to be on my own forever my friends and family tell me i won't but it's hard to see that at the mo they tell me to go out more but at the mo i just can't get up the motivation to its hard enough to make myself go to work. I just sit here hoping he will get in touch and hoping he don't as it hurts to know hes with someone else if that makes sense.

Iwas married for 16 years and wen that ended as he left for another woman i never felt like this .

I just want to be the happy bubbly me again would appreciate anybodies advice on here

Posted 11/24/2009 12:19 PM (GMT 0)
hi B.B. and welcome to the forum. i am sorry for your situation, although i want to say that you have done well in reaching out on this forum. life is a roller-coaster at times, we go up, down, go through some scary corkscrews, and at the end of the ride we are still riding it!! our hearts are pounding, the adrenaline still pumps, but after awhile we are back at the start. my suggestion is to follow your gut instincts, and mostly to be true to you. maybe seeking some counselling will help, it is good to bounce things of a therapist as they are truely seperate and can give sound feedback in regards to what is happening for you. other members will post with ideas, but in the meantime, we care and keep safe. jamie.
Posted 11/24/2009 12:33 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Jamie
thanx for ure reply and ure right about life being a roller coaster never runs smooth.
wat u say about being true to myself sounds like good advice something i should start doing. i am the sort of person that tends to worry about everyone elses feelings and not my own as long as everyone else is happy.
I have read through a few of the posts on this site and found them usefull just to know im not the only one going through depression and wat im feeling is normal helps.
Take care BB
Posted 11/24/2009 1:39 PM (GMT 0)
HI B.B.  a lot of people with depression do that. worry about other people moreso than themselves. hey, you are number 1 in your world okay. le me know how you go, if that is okay? many healings to you. jamie. keep safe and well.
Posted 11/24/2009 3:46 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Bunnybear,

Welcome to the forum!

It's hard to have depression and then have it compounded by events which are upsetting. I'm sorry this man used you so. You don't need to be friends with him. I'm sure he'd like that, but if it's upsetting you further, then try to make a clean break, for your own peace of mind.

You will get your life back, it just may take a little time. It sounds like you've had bad luck with your relationships, but that doesn't mean they will be like that forever. I echo Jamiee's advice that you look into counseling. It can help you learn to work through the depression and make good decisions about relationships.

Be well,
serafena
Posted 11/25/2009 9:36 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Jamie and Serafena

Thanx for the advice got to go bac to the docs next week so think i might talk to her about councilling.

I am trying my hardest to cut this bloke off did manage last night to delete hes phone number so thats one step

not feeling to bad today managed agood nights sleep :-)

Just really want to get bac to being me and happy

hope u r all well today

take care bb

Posted 11/25/2009 9:55 AM (GMT 0)
thx 4 the reply BB. sounds to me that you have started your healing process. keep it up. you are doin' well. jamie. keep posting. with compassion, jamie.
Posted 11/26/2009 12:22 AM (GMT 0)
Hello BB,

I just had a read of ur post's and i hear where ur coming from!! I to thought that i was the only lonley person on this earth,but coming to this forum has helped me so much as you said in ur post you have read other's post's and yes there are lot's of lonley people in the worl but we just dont hear about it until we come here. Im sorry ur going through so much pain. I would agree with Jamiee in regard's to some councelling and maybe try some other med's??? We are all here for each other so please dont feel alone anymore. Also my suggestion with this guy in ur life is to tell him to walk away as it seems like he's just dragging you down which you dont need. Look after "YOU" nobody else. hope u have a good day/night!!!!

sincerly,

damagedgoods41...... cool sad cool sad

Posted 11/26/2009 9:18 AM (GMT 0)
Hi everyone

thanx for your replies and advice

im going to see the doctor next week and ask about councilling

I have taken the first small step to distancing myself from this bloke by deleting hes phone number

Had a real down day yesterday felt worthless and unlovable not feeling to bad today

take care everyone

luv bb

Posted 11/26/2009 5:23 PM (GMT 0)
Hi there,

I am so glad that you found us. You will feel better soon knowing that you aren't the only one in this situation. We all understand. Keep on keeping on. You are a wonderful person and I am glad that you have joined us here.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 11/30/2009 12:25 AM (GMT 0)
Hi BB,

 

Just wanting to say hello and i hope that thing's are getting better than they were?? Remember we are all here for you,your not alone. Look after "YOU"!!!!

 

sincerly,

 

damaged......      xxxxxxxxx

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