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Posted Today 5:43 PM (GMT 0)
So I got out of the hospital to go to a family thanksgiving meal.  Big mistake.  Huge family arguement.  I am having severe flare of my CD so I could not eat much anyway.  I have to admit I have been dwelling on this.  You see my Mother died earlier this year, and come to find out that there was some money that she had coming her way from her family farm.  We (my brothers and I) wanted to follow the exact terms of the family farm trust.  But by doing that my mothers siblings took that as we were thinking they were trying to cheat us.  It was more that the lawyer my Uncle employed for the trust could not even spell his clients name correctly.  So I did take longer then I probably should have to turn it around, because I wanted to cover my own legal six.

I have to admit to find out this was money that my Mom could have spent on her care is something that just drives me nuts.  But she was the kind of person who would put the family farm, before her health and wellbeing. 

I just needed to vent.  Thanks.

Posted Today 7:38 PM (GMT 0)
sorry for your loss. estates, truss and wills can be a mindfield at times. sorry that your thx giving wasn't that pleasent for you, i am sure you will make up for it. i hope you are feeling better that you are now away from hospital. many healings my friend, jamie.
Posted 12/6/2009 9:31 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you jamie! What I did not put in there and I am sure you could read into it, was the level of violence that was attained. Thank you for your kind and compassionate thoughts.
Posted 12/6/2009 9:39 PM (GMT 0)
Things can get SO ugly when it involves inheritances...I've seen it when grandparents from both sides of the family passed away. I have 1 sister, and I just can't imagine fighting over money. I would be so upset about losing my parents that money would probably be the last thing on my mind. Of course, my dad has split some things up (bonds mainly) already so it will never be an issue.

I'm sorry this all happened on Thanksgiving. I know you haven't been feeling well, and you deserved a relaxing day with family.

I hope you're feeling ok, let us know how you're physically doing.
Posted 12/6/2009 9:57 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks bar, got the rear bleeding back down to a constant period like leak. But still having to go to the hospital on a daily basis for the nutritional IVs and to moniter the blood loss.

Oh well...you know how it is with illness and stress...

Post Edited (MMMNAVY) : 12/6/2009 3:00:39 PM (GMT-7)

Posted 12/7/2009 4:22 AM (GMT 0)
keep figtin' my friend. hoping things get better real soon. here for you anytime. jamie
Posted 12/7/2009 6:01 AM (GMT 0)
Navy,

I hope that you feel better soon. Didn't realize how much you are going through at this time. My thoughts are with you.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 12/7/2009 9:09 AM (GMT 0)
(((Navy)))

Jaimee's right; estates and wills are horrendous, especially when there are multiple (and usually competing) family members to bicker over them. I'm really sorry you had to cope with such a violent argument - and at Thanksgiving - while grieving and missing your mother, and while so very ill.

What exactly does a farm trust entail? I didn't quite understand that part.

*hug*

Ivy.
Posted 12/7/2009 3:27 PM (GMT 0)
I can relate to inheritance issues, I deal with them alot in my work, and it really is sad to see how some families get when there is money concerned. When my Mom passed I was so glad that she took care of giving her house to my brother legally, so that my sisters couldn't come and try to take it from him. Because my mom took care of things ahead of time, all the fight was taking out of the situation. Sorry you are having to deal with this on top of being so ill.

Hugs
Gail*Nanners*
Posted 12/7/2009 4:09 PM (GMT 0)
Navy....I am so sorry for all that you are dealing with.....why is it some siblings relatives are so into the inheiratance.(sp)..as you know both mom n dad hv passed away n the house was sold..money divided between 4 of us..i told siblings to stick 'blood money' they thought i was just emotional n upset...duh......the monies are in bank n if cait wants to use it for education then so be it ..i know my parents would hv approved of that for sure......money makes ppl greedy imho...my siblings never looked after either parent i did n cait helped yet oh wow they sure were there with hands out for the money...i dont hv anything to do with them now..made me sick to stomache how they acted...i hope things settle for you...you are a very special person in this gals eyes n heart...luvs lyn

I believe there is so much of your mom in you ..you always put others before you thats what makes you special and i am sure your Mom is looking down proud as can be...

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