Depression and Infidelity

Hi there,

I guess my advice (as usual) would be to take this one day at a time.  Stay on your meds, try to not feel guilty about what you did, that will eat you up.  But remember that you did make a mistake and it could take her a while to come to terms with this and forgive you.  Keep trying, I am sure between the two of you, this will work out.  Trust issues might be touchy for a while.  But that is to be expected. 

It sounds like you are both trying.  So keep on with that.

Best wishes to you.

Hugs, Karen

I am very happy for your twins.  Yes that can keep you together, enjoying them.  Just make sure that they don't get hurt in any of this.  Make sure that you keep their best interest first and farmost.  You will get through this all. 

I hope that you are having a good day today.  Things are good here. 

Keep trying and put the past where it belongs, in the past.  You will do fine.  One day at a time, that is what I always say.  It works for me.  And for many others here. 

Counseling is always advisable too.  It is good to have a professional sounding board.

Take care,

Hugs, Karen

I can see you are in a very difficult situation. Infidelity in marriage is not uncommon when one of the partners suffers from an unexplainable depression. After all, he/she is depressed and unhappy in whatever circumstances. It is not entirely unnatural for a depressed person to speculate that there is something missing in the marriage. It is like "doing the geographics" as alcoholics say, or looking for greener pasture around the corner, without realising that the unhappiness is internal and not external.

You have to treat the depression before you can repair the damage done to the marriage. As a Nutritional Psychologist I look upon depression as one of the underlying diseases, that interferes with the normal production of feel good neurotransmitters such as serotonin. In many cases this can be teated without recourse to drugs by a competent Nutritional Doctor, familiar with Nutritional Medicine. It is explained at:

Depression is a Nutritional Disorder

Depression can be a nutritional disorder, but isn't always.  It can also be food allergies, but not always.

I just don't want anybody to stop their meds without talking to their doctor first.  As some of us do need our medications to feel better. 

So please stick with your protocol.  And if you want to try another way, please consult your physician first.

Hugs, Karen