Post holiday blues...

Hi everybody,

This is such a difficult time of the year.  I just wondered if anybody has anything to share as how to get over the after holiday blues. 

I try going for walks, listening to music, and cleaning. 

Does anybody have any methods to stay above the depression?

Your posts are so much appreciated....

Hugs, Karen

I too have a difficult time with the holidays. My counselor tells me I need to find something to look forward to. I have signed up to bike for a charity event this summer so I'll need to train for that. I'm planning a vacation this summer. I have to keep my mind busy, so I am also taking up reading again from magazines to books. I have also planned a couple of lunch and movie outings with a friend.

Dear karen,

Im so sorry ur going through such a hard time with ur depression at this time. Im pretty much the same as Jamiee at the moment as im feeling really low too!!!  Maybe you need to talk to ur pdoc and try an ajustment on ur med's again as they dont seem to be helping you very much??? I know on one of ur other posts u said that u were going to have an increase,maybe thats the prob and it could be a simple adjustment for you. I honestly dont know what else to say other than keep ur chin-up and we all care very much about you,and i hate knowing that your suffering too. do you like music,excersise,reading,wlking ect???? I know that when we are feeling so low we dont want to walk or even read but it may help you a little. What about ur husband is he being supportive with you karen??? That's what we all need is SUPPORT!!!! I honestly hope ur feeling better real soon. It makes me sad to know that ur hurting and i do know how you are feeling.

Look after u and nobody else as u need all of ur strength to get through this tough time.

 

sincerley,

beverley   xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

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thx beverly and karen. support is key. hoping we all feel better soon. i feel totally jet-lagged!! jamie

Baking is always a good one for me. Not stressed out baking for tons of people baking, but just baking because it's fun! Plus decorating cookies and cakes and things can be a really fun thing to do.

The is the first year (and the first thing) that I can honestly say I do not have the "holdiay" blues.  During the past nine months which have been extremely stressful on me I made some long overdue emotional decisions.  First, I cut all ties with my ex-husbands family.  This has been a 20+ year connection that had rapidly gone down-hill over the past year and 1/2.  Second, I actually calmly discussed what I was and was not capable of doing with my parents this year: expressing quite clearly what my and my childrens needs were.  With that said, my Christmas time was enjoyable as everything was kept in perspective. And when the time was over I was okay with it.  No mixed emotions and that has kept away the holiday blues.  Unfortunately...i have a lot of other stressors and blues to deal with but I know I will be okay in this regard this year and other years to come.

Also, I want to add that I bought my daughter who is 10 an Aerogrow for Christmas this year.  This is a device where we can grow herbs, tomato plants, beans and other vegetables hydroponically.  My daughter and I check and stare at our plants about 10-11 times per day.  Seeing these plants grow from seed has made us feel so good and is something so positive in our lives.  I would highly recommend this to all of you!

Cass

Dear Karen,

How r u??? Feeling better as yet??? Sorry i haven't replied for a while and ur alway's in my thoughts "every day", it's just that i too am very depressed to the point that my daughter is back to her old self as in ringing me up and abusing me over the phone,like last week she sent me a msg saying that her partner was drunk and she was scared of him and that he had thrown his wedding ring away. Anyway i rang her straight away and when he answered he wasn't even drunk,infact it was Beccy that was off her face,she had 1/2 a cask of wine and a bottle of champagne and was totally smashed to the point that she was screaming at me,rantin and raving and calling me names,like what a terrible mother i am because i didn't stick up for her on the telephone and said that her kitten is more important than i am and i should go to  Hell!!!! Then she hung up on me and i tried to call her back but she turned off her phone. Then i get all these horrible messages from her. She said well youve lost ur daughter and gained a son???? then she sent another one saying  the world and you with it!!!!! Then the last one was "ur supposed to stick up for ur only child u selfish and F U!!! After the call and the horrible messages i was so hurt and angry that i went into my bedroom sobbing and i saw a needle and cotton that i had been using to fix a top so i grabbed the needle and started  and have made a real mess of them. I was so hurt and angry i didn't know what else to do so i hurt myself and still want to but i know that i cant as i will end up in the pshyc ward again and that's not going to happen EVER!!!!!!! Sorry for rambling Karen it's just as usual i have nobody to talk to and need to get this out of my screwed up head. Anyway it's been 1 week and i still havent heard anything from my daughter,until she need's food ect then she will contct me but i am not going to help her this time as she has drained me of my money and am flat broke and also i have been giving them heaps of my food shopping and other stuff that i buy for them. NEVER AGAIN AS ALL THEY R DOING IS USING ME TO THERE ADVANTAGE......... No more i cant cope with all of this as im not mentally strong enough either. What do i do Karen?? I just dont know anymore. I truly hope ur feeling better urself karen and as i said ur always in my thought's. 

sincerly,

beverley. 

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dear Jamiee,

Hope ur doing well and not depressed anymore???  Thx for the reply and yes i think ur so right about me loosing it good and proper. My anger is getting way out of control to the point that im having bad thought's about me and also my father "i want him to suffer too" is that bad of me to even say that??? I just dont know how to feel anymore.

And am also still trying to grieve the loss of my Aunt Pat and every nite when i go to bed all i see is her face and im hating it so much even though i miss her alot. i think im not far off ending up in the pshyc ward again to get some control of my exsistence???? ur in my thought's also.

sincerley,

beverley.  xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

dear karen,

thx so much for ur wise words, it all makes so much sense in what ur saying but i just cant get it out of my head and am always wondering what is she up too now?? the way shes going she will be beck in gaol again,but for a long time as shes on a c.b.o. which is a community based order for 12mths and if she breaks that she goes straight to prison,no ifs but's of maybe's and that saddens me as i know im going to get that call real soon as shes just out of control. It just hurts so much as i feel like i dont have a child anymore,and it makes me feel so very empty. I know to that i have to look after Tahlia and she is also starting to show signs of p.t.s.d. she has been assessed by a child pshyc and she states that Tahlia is really suffering and it breaks my heart <3!!!!!! I have also just been told that my step-grandaughter Destiny has been taken up to Queensland to live with a foster family and that saddens me s i wont see her again and also i never got the chance to say goodbye to her. she's only 9yrs old,not fair for her either. What do u do in such horrible situation's besides falling apart??? I also am not going to answer my phone if my daughter calls as she is getting worse with her abuse towards me and now also my mother too,she's out of control and nobody wants anything to do with her anymore.

they all hate her terribly and that's sad too. Again karen thx so much for helping me to cope. I truly hope and pray that ur feeling better than you were as u deserve all the happiness in the world.

 

Sincerly,

 

beverley cook.  xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

Also thx Jamiee 2 for being there when i need it!!!!!!!!!!!

ur both wonderful people and i wish you were my family as i know i would be loved unconditionally!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

beverly, do not worry about me. i am okay, just yo-yo-ing. see qwack fri, will see if he will increase the cymbalta. things will turn around sweetie, hold strong, karen has given you some excellent wisdom-that i totally agree with. you my dear need some peace and quiet, and some much needed rest. i am here for you. with compassion, jamie.

Hi Beverly,

What is going on?  Is it your family again?  You know you need to distance yourself from this terrible treatment.  You have endured quite enough. 

Let us know what is going on, we are here to listen.  Don't listen to a word that they say anymore.  You know that they only want to get you down.  And you have had enough of that.  It is time to move on my friend.  Think seriously about this.

Hugs, Karen