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Posted 2/8/2010 11:42 PM (GMT 0)
To whoever reads this,

I am currently a young person who thinks they are suffering from depression.  I have looked at websites about depression and I seem to have most of the symptoms... I felt like this last year and I went to counselling for a little while because it was available immediately.  This time seems to be different though... I don't want to admit that I have depression because I am ashamed to have it at such a young age.  It's stopping me doing normal day-to-day things like eating and sleeping properly.  I seem to just cry for ages and ages and my head is just filled with so many questions and thoughts that I just can't keep up. I am a great lover of music but don't seem to have the motivation to play flute or piano anymore and I don't even have the motivation to go shopping which isn't like me at all!! I have had to take a week out of university because I didn't feel up to it so have stayed at home with my family who are obviously worried.  I have been to a doctor who has taken bloods and I am waiting on the results and she also said that she will "keep an eye" on my low feelings.  I want to start to be able to feel like going back to my normal self because I don't like my friends seeing me this upset - I have hidden it from them for too long and now that I have told one or 2, quite a lot of people seem to know now and no doubt everyone will be asking questions and fussing and worrying about me when I go back to uni which is exactly what I don't want.  This probably all seems like a massive confusion to whoever reads it so imagine the confusion my head is putting me through?! Just can't cope with it all... What should I do?

EmilyT

Posted 2/9/2010 12:12 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Emily,

Depression is nothing to be ashamed of. It is a physical and mental disorder that just happens to people. Keeping in touch with your doctor is good. And so is counseling. So I highly recommend it. It is not worth risking getting worse just because you don't want people to know. You can get help without others knowing it. Just don't tell them.

I am sorry that you are depressed, but happy that you have found this site. There are a lot of wonderful members here. You will find that out.

I really hope that you start to feel better soon. I will post some sites for you as soon as I locate them. They are in my notebook and I have to find it. I will get back with that soon. Hang in there. There are many people who care, and you deserve that.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 2/9/2010 12:19 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks for the advice Karen

I am going to the doctors this week but I am not really sure how to start the conversation when they say "so what is it that i can do for you?"
do you have any suggestions about how i can start the conversation?
my mum will be coming with me because i have managed to tell her a lot recently and she wants me to get help even though i am not keen on it...

EmilyT
Posted 2/9/2010 2:47 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Emily,

Let the doctor know that you think that you are depressed.  Let them know how you feel.  Things that you feel aren't right.  If you are having trouble sleeping, eating.  If you are tired all the time, or have lost interest in things. 

You are lucky that your mom is there for you.  Not all of us have had that.  It is good to have a good source of support.  Being depressed isn't fun, and going it alone is even worse.  Accept her interest in your well being. 

Here are those sites that I had:

http://www.teencentral.net/

http://nineline.org/

http://forums.teenhelp.org/

http://www.teenhut.net/

I hope that these help you.  It would probably be worth checking it out.  I have never been to them, but I still pass them along.

I hope that you feel better soon.  Keep posting as we are all here for you.

Hugs, Karen

Posted 2/9/2010 5:47 AM (GMT 0)
Emily

I just wanted to add...in addition to what Karen said...that sometimes it's easier to just let people know that you're dealing with some stuff and a little down. That way you don't have to explain yourself to people if you don't feel like doing things, and people can keep in touch with you. Often when I'm feeling more down, I don't feel like calling friends, but when they call to just say hi, it makes me feel better, I guess because it reminds me that I have true friends who really love me. Give it some thought...you can decide what you think is best for you.

I'm glad you found HW. Everyone here is understanding and caring, and someone will always understand your feelings. Remember you're not alone, and there is help and hope that you'll have better days ahead!
Posted 2/9/2010 5:57 AM (GMT 0)
emily t, hoping you feel better soon. the sooner you are assessed the sooner you can get effective treatment for this debilitating condition. keep posting and let us know how you are going, providing this is okay. we care and understand depression well. with compassion, jamie.
Posted 2/9/2010 12:42 PM (GMT 0)
thanks for all the advice - i will let you know about docs on wednesday

i have also started to write a journal about how i am feeling - my mum suggested it but i just dont know how its going to help... am i meant to show anyone what i have written? i dont particulary want to show people :S
after joining this website and some of the ones that karen recommended i am starting to feel a bit better but then i will speak to someone i know like friends from uni and i just get really upset again because they dont understand how hard it is - they just say that i need to keep myself busy but its the motivation that i have lot - i just dont see the point in doing anything anymore...
how can i make them understand?
Posted 2/9/2010 2:22 PM (GMT 0)
When you write in a journal, that is just for you. Unless you want to share with a counselor or somebody. Just putting things down on paper or computer helps us. Then we can go back later and reflect on it. That is what is nice about a journal. We can put our private thoughts there. So I think it is a good idea.

I am glad that some of the sites are helpful to you. I was hoping that they would be. Keep posting and let us know how you are doing. This is a really hard time of the year, we all go though a hard time right now. So don't feel alone there.

I hope that today is a better day for you. You sound like a wonderful person. And I am glad that you and your mom are so close. I wish I would have had that when I was your age. But my mother and I did not get along. Sadly to say.

Keep us up with what is going on in your life and don't be afraid to write your feelings here, we truly understand.

Hugs, Karen
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