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Posted 5/6/2010 6:41 AM (GMT 0)
My Husband has just been diagnosed with severe depression, he tells me he has suicidal thoughts daily, and he is waiting to be referred to a Psychiatrist. He is also on anti-depressants.

He has gone in a short space of time from a loving considerate thoughtful man who cares deeply about me and others, to a person who is very aggitated doesn't ask how I am any more, and basically sinking in to his own pit! Yes, I know that this is all part of depression not him!!

My question is, how can I help him???? How can I support him???
Posted 5/6/2010 12:35 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Annuk,

I think he needs to tell the doctor how he is feeling. It sounds like he should be on a different AD. Some AD's can cause suicidal thoughts in people. This could be the wrong medication for him. Please contact the doctor.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 5/6/2010 1:13 PM (GMT 0)
hi anuk. jamie here,

does he want help? sadly medication can be hit and miss. although therapy is very helpful, but he has to be ready and wanting it. if he is at risk then i would strongly advise you to contact your area psychiatric mental health team, if in an emergency i would very strongly suggest you contact your psychiatric triage dept at your nearest local hospital.

depression sucks, it is debilitating, it is very mentally draining, on you and him. are there any people you can look to for support-for him. friends, colleagues, church or any organisation he is affiliated with? maybe your local area mental health team can come and have a chat to him-something you can suggest. other services may be offered to him via the team, also they can give you tools and resources to help you cope as well. if he receives the info from the team in terms of recommendations he is more likely to co-operate.

sending you my compassionate healing prayers,

-jamie. 

Posted 5/6/2010 9:21 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks so much guys!! Yes thankfully he does want help! He has had a bad run of picking up viruses over the last year, together with hospitalisation for asthma, which has all added to things. We just saw the Doc again on Tuesday who did not pick up on the effects of the AD's, or maybe she doesn't think they are affecting him!

We are waiting for a counselling appointment to come through and for him to see the Psychiatrist! So I believe everything possible is being done medically to help him, I am just desperate to be able to support him and be there for him in the right way, and not add to his troubles!!
Posted 5/6/2010 9:34 PM (GMT 0)
Sounds like things are rolling if he is going to see a pdoc and a therapist. I am so happy for you. Just let him know that you understand and that you are there for him. The rest he will do. It is good that he is getting this help.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 5/7/2010 12:04 AM (GMT 0)
good. i am glad. jamie.
Posted 5/7/2010 3:37 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Caitlin,

Welcome to healing well. Do you think it could just be because you don't like where you are at the time? You said that when you want to be in a class you feel fine. Maybe you can change the way that you look at the class. Usually depression lasts longer than a class would last. Maybe you are bored or something.

I hope that you feel better soon.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 6/14/2010 2:50 PM (GMT 0)
Just to give you an update, my husband has been in a Psychiatric Hospital for the last month with severe depression and some Psychotic symptoms. I just want to thank you all for your support, I believe he has turned a corner now and the suicidal thoughts are beginning to diminish.

He has just been home for weekend leave, and we have had a lovely weekend together, so hopefully it won't be long until he is home!

I hope this gives encouragement to others that are suffering, it shows that given the right help things can change for the better!!

take care

Ann
Posted 6/14/2010 3:38 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Ann,

I am so happy that your husband is doing better. That must feel wonderful for you.

I am glad that you posted this good news, as I am sure that everybody else is too. You deserve the best, you are a wonderful person.

Take care now, keep posting and let us know what is going on.

Hugs, Karen
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