My jealousy

I am sorry if this is posted in the wrong place, but this subject makes is what i believe is the cause of my moodiness.. My girlfriend, whom i love very much, has alot of guy friends. It did not bother me at first but when one hit on her and then she tried to defend him from me the fear of her cheating and jealousy started to creep into my mind. It feels like i can not trust her. She says she would never cheat but even when she is regularly talking she appears to be flirting with other guys. It makes me feel inadequate; like i do not satisfy her enough to keep her interested in me. I have talked to her about but she just makes a sad face at me and makes it fel like I am over reacting when i think i have every right to be suspicious. then i feel bad for accusing her of something i have absolutely no proof for and the cycle starts all over. Jealousy, anger, depression repeat. It feels like i am simply an actor portraying someones written joke. Any and all advice would be greatly appreciatd. I just want the cycle to end so i can be happy.

Hey Wildcat 7411

Has your girlfriend ever done anything to make you distrust her? If the answer is no, then you just have to accept that she is a popular girl with both males and females, but you are the one she is with because she loves you the way you love her. Be very careful because that great big green eyed monster can certainly ruin the relationship for you if you let it creep in.

I think if she was cheating on you, you would know it. Flirting is not cheating, it is probably just her personality and to you it seems like she is flirting. The guy who tried to hit on her isn't a threat to you if you don't let him become one, remember she is with you, not him and I'm sure if she wanted to be with him or someone else she would be.

Just try and not let it bother you too much, don't show that it does. If you can't trust her then you should break it off, simple as that.

I hope I have helped you a little, just take things easy and keep that green eyed monster under wraps.

harrington49 said...
Just try and not let it bother you too much, don't show that it does. If you can't trust her then you should break it off, simple as that.

I have akready shown hurt. Is this bad? Because I tried to talk to her about it but she seemed to kind of avoid the question........

Hey wildkat, I'm just swinging through for my 2 cents. I do feel for you, the uncertainty is the worst. I would personally see a red flag where she avoided the question when you posed it. In *MOST* cases if you accuse someone of something that they know they did not do they will react quickly and surly in stating its untruth. I've found though, in *MOST* cases, that when someone has no dispute for an accusation, and even seems to be avoiding or scared to talk about it...its a sign that they are hiding something. Now please don't take that thought and board the train to crazy town with it as your ticket, it is not the situation for sure. I think the suggestions made to possibly create some distance is a good idea as well, if you tactfully back off and she does not pursue at all then you know that she is not real. It is terrible, but people need testing these days to try to identify true motives and views. Good luck, trust me my friend, a good one is harder to find than a needle in a stack of haystacks. (hehe part of my depression)


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