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Posted 6/9/2010 5:06 PM (GMT 0)
My son leaves today for his program in FL. I am sitting here counting the minutes until we leave to take him to the train. He has to take 2 trains, has a 6 hr layover in Washington, D.C. But this is what he wanted and I know he can take care of himself while waiting for the next train. He is so worried about the program and people watching him all the time but he is there for only 9 weeks and they have customized a very intense program for him. I guess I am sad for both of us. Everyone says I need to go through an adjustment period and I know that but I also know it won't be easy. Night is the worst for me being alone and not having anyone to talk to. I guess I am projecting and just need to take each day as it comes. I think I will email those of you who offered. It may help me to be able to talk directly with some of my friends here. Thanks for listening.

Aurora

Posted 6/9/2010 5:31 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Aurora,

I am sure that night is going to be hard at first. But you will find things to do. I like to play bookworm on the computer, it really makes the time go by. You can type it in on the search and find one to download. I think it is like 10.00 or something. I downloaded it off of a friend's disc. It really makes the time go by fast. And it is fun to play. I have scored over five million points once. lol... Well, now you know what I do in my spare time.

We all know that this isn't going to be the easiest thing that you have ever done. But know that we support your decision. What you are doing for your son is the best thing for him. You will be rewarded because of this unselfish act of kindness to him. He will be scared too, but he will get by just fine. It sounds like he has a lot of support and people helping him. So know that you are doing the right thing for each of you. And you will get through this. Know that we are here right behind you all the way.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 6/9/2010 11:44 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Aurora

I'll be thinking of you both also. Remember this is a good thing you are doing for him and he will be much better off in the long run.

It will be hard for both of you at first, but as time goes on you will sort of get used to him not being there. When my daughter moved to Sweden at 20 years of age, I was absolutely devastated, the bottom completely fell out of my world, I felt like I had lost my right arm. I was so worried about her as she had nobody over there to help her if she needed help. But you know time passed and things worked out well for her, I admit that I have never really gotten over losing my only daughter to another country but somehow you get on with life, I did, I had to. You won't stop missing him, but what I am trying to say is that you get used to him not being there, over time, it will take you a while.

You can email me too if you want to. I am thinking of you.
Posted 6/10/2010 1:40 AM (GMT 0)
i too am here for you aurora. jamie.
Posted 6/10/2010 5:00 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you all for answering me and supporting me. It was hard taking my son to the train and seeing him walk away. He was so sad. My younger son drove us to the station and we waited for the train to depart. My son called from the train last night on his cell phone and called me today to say that his train is late. But that's OK because he won't have so long to wait for his next train to FL. My other son spent the night with me at the house and that was a big help for me. We watched the Stanley Cup game and as Chicagoans were thrilled to see the Blackhawks win after so many years. Today reality is setting in and I know I am truly alone. My younger son is around and I see him several times a week and he is just a phone call away. But I am worried about when he goes to Europe July 15-30. I am going to have to find a network of friends to call on if I should have a problem or emergency. Those will be the hardest weeks of the summer. It would be great if we would all meet in chat but I don't know how to figure out the time differences. But all who offered me to email you I will take you up on it. It will be encouraging to personally here from you. Again thank you so much for your support.

Many hugs,

Aurora

Posted 6/10/2010 5:27 PM (GMT 0)
That would be cool if we could all meet up in chat. There is something called world clock here on the forum. I will look it up. It shows the time zones. I think you are about an hour different from me. If you are in Illinois. I am thinking that because of the hockey game, though you talk about Florida a lot. So I am not sure where you are. I am in Michigan. Eastern time zone. But I will look for that and see if we can figure out a chat time.

I know it is going to be hard for you in July Aurora. But we will help you get through it. July is a fast month for me. It goes by fast. Then it is August and autumn is coming. For me the summer goes by really fast, even if I am not doing a lot.

I picked up a couple of rosemary plants the other day. I have them in my window and am looking at them now. One has pretty little blue flowers on it and it is so pretty. I love rosemary. I got one last year and put it in the greenhouse and it got too hot and died. It is loving this weather right now, it is a cool breeze coming in the window. I also got a heliotrope plant. I really love them. They are so fragrant. Though this one is blooming some, and I don't smell much, but the blooms aren't all the way open either.

I hope that you have a good day Aurora. Your son is on an adventure now and I think he is going to do good. It sounds like he is ready to venture out in life. You will be so proud of him.

Take care,

Hugs, Karen
Posted 6/10/2010 7:52 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks Karen. I am in Illinois so I am on Central daylight time right now so that would make me 1 hour behind you. It would be great if we could have chat like we used to do. This is my first day alone and I am trying to keep busy. I had a meeting but it was cancelled and now I just don't have the energy to go out. Besides, my son calls every so often from the train so I want to be here to talk to him. His train from Chicago is late so I don't even know if he has gotten to D.C. yet. His next train leaves at 7:30 pm so at least the delay shortens his waiting time. Let me know if there can be a time to chat.

Many hugs,

Aurora

Posted 6/11/2010 7:41 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Siobhan, Thanks for your reply. I am doing OK, not great but hanging in. I will email you, it will be fun to correspond directly. I got a call from the place my son went to in Florida, he just arrived after a 2 day train trip so I am sure he is tired and somewhat anxious as this is so new for him. The therapists keep in touch with me every day so I will know his progress. And he has a mobile phone so he can call me anytime. I am just relieved that he arrived there safely. He is afraid to fly so that is why he took the train.  Will talk to you later. I think I need a good cry and then I may feel better.

Many hugs,

Aurora

Posted 6/11/2010 8:36 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Aurora,

A good cry is so cleansing, so grab the tissues and let go.

I hope that you are feeling better soon.

I am so happy that your son made it safely.

Hugs, Karen
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