Too much to take

My father passed away 2 weeks ago. I was the primary care taker...he was very stubborn and lived alone...though I saw him almost everyday for the past 5 years. I found him in his home...it was very traumatic for me. On top of that my uncle has been told he has 4 months to a year to live...my dad's cousin, like an uncle to me, has ALS...and to top it off my husband wants a divorce and does not want to work on the marriage and has moved into the down stairs bedroom. I cry ALL the time...I cant help it...it seems like my life is falling apart. We have been married 16 years and have a 13 year old...this is too much all at once... :( https://www.healingwell.com/community/emoticons/sad.gif

Hey Citygirl

You are in my thoughts and prayers also, you certainly have a lot on your plate. I am sorry for the death of your father but you can take great solace in the fact that you saw so much of him and were his primary carer, those thoughts will never leave you.

I think your husband should be comforting you instead of talking about divorce. He doesn't seem to have any empathy at all for you. Why does he want to throw 16 years away, that is 16 years that you or him can't get back and surely there must have been a lot of good times in those years? You have to remind him of the good times, tell him that they far outweigh the bad, make him think, tell him you love him, tell him you don't want him to go. But most of all don't beg him to stay because it won't work. If he has his mind set on leaving then you can't change it. Counselling is worth trying but have you thought if there is a third party involved here? I hate to be the one to ask you that especially at this terrible time but I think it something that you have to address.

Keep posting and let us know how you are doing, we all care and are interested and want to help as much as we can.