How should we handle this?

I'm not sure if this is the right place to put this, so feel free to move it if I put it in the wrong place. To start off, I am a female with Turner Syndrome. I don't have any functioning ovaries (they were removed), and was raised as a male. My husband happens to have Klinefelter's Syndrome (47,XXY). Because of his ambiguous genitals, he was raised as a female. We are now looking to correct that and live life as the genders we were born as.

We are going to therapy, and we have come out to friends and co-workers. A good majority of them said they promise to respect our wishes and refer to us correctly. There, however, is one individual who says she accepts our decision yet refuses to respect our wishes. It happens to be my husband's superior. We tried telling her that being referred to incorrectly is a source of great frustration and anger. I actually lost my temper somewhat when she referred to my husband as "she". I attempted to correct her, which turned into an argument. We were told we had to be assertive, that habits are sometimes hard to break, but I'm at my wit's end. I suggested to my husband that we move somewhere else where no one would know us, and we could start fresh, but that will take time to save up the money to move.

My husband seems to think that his manager will fall in line eventually once she starts hearing everyone else referring to him correctly. Even talking to our therapist, I still pretty much cry myself to sleep. I just need someone else's point of view.

Thanks for reading.

Thanks Karen!

We actually lived literally 2 minutes apart when we were growing up. Things just kept going from there. There came a time when I said to him, "We have to talk, there's something I have to tell you." He said he also had something to tell me too. At that point, I told him about my condition, and that I am genetically female. It was then he said, "So? I am actually a guy, but I have XXY chromosomes." From that point on, we knew we were meant for each other.

My husband is actually at work right now. The manager I spoke of seems to be avoiding him like the plague, only stopping to say goodbye or to tell him what needs done. He wants to sit down with her and talk things through, I don't think that's such a good idea.

my testes are silicon implants. stemmed from a very early dx of hypogonadism, very young, but ultimately it was annorchia. was very androgenous myself. now fine, but infertile. on testosterone for life. with compassion, jamie

If you do want to pursue this there is possibly some legal recourse. If you are in the US the EEOC might be of assistance.

this is directly off the EEOC website:

"Discriminatory practices under these laws also include:
harassment on the basis of race, color, religion, sex, national origin, disability, genetic information, or age; "

http://www.eeoc.gov/facts/qanda.html