how can i overcome this situation
just keep on living with those jerks ..... - 0.0% - 0 votes
make them frends again - 0.0% - 0 votes
try console myself.... - 0.0% - 0 votes
try 2 ignore them - 0.0% - 0 votes
try 2 make new frend - 66.7% - 2 votes
try 2 divert my mind like on *studies* - 33.3% - 1 votes
Posted 1/10/2011 9:40 AM (GMT 0)
HI I AM 14 N I FEEL TERRIBLE BCOS D 13 YEARS I HAVE LIVED ITS WITHOUT A BEST FREND N WHEN I JOINED A GRUP IN HOPE OF FINDING A BEST FREND I C THT EVERY1 IGNORES ME MAKE ME DO THEIR WORK I... N THT 2 I HAV BEEN IN THT GRUP 4 5 YEARS N SUDDENLY THEY KICK ME OUT WHAT DO THINK I AM JUST A STRANGER OR A FREND 2 GIVE ALL THIS A SPICE I HAVE A SPRAIN NOW + HEALTH PROB .....................I FEEL LONELY N HELPLESS ............................ *I NEED HELP , INEED SOMEONE*
MMMNAVY
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Posted 1/10/2011 1:26 PM (GMT 0)
Independent,
I am sorry things are so bad, but I do want to assure you that things do get better. I think that junior high/high school transition is incredibly difficult. I cannot tell you want to do, because I do not know the exact situation, but it does sound like you are being taken advantage of. I am also sorry to hear you have health problems. Have you thought about talking to your school social worker or counselor?
Take Care,
Navy
august83
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Joined : Jan 2011
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Posted 1/10/2011 9:36 PM (GMT 0)
at 14 years old u are always going to struggle with friendship since true friends are rare. they are rare as an adult but especially as a teenager. if the people that you are hanging out with are just keeping you around to do their homework it is time that u tell them that u dont need them anymore. How fair is it to you to be their "go to" person. you should get out of a friendship what you put into one. base future friendships on common interest like music or hobbies etc... i agree that talking to a counselor is also a step that you should consider since everyone needs someone to talk to, even if it is just to vent about your day. im sure that u hear that at our age life isnt that serious and your problems are minimum, but on the contrary, your self esteem and learned behavior are the most important thing that you take with you into "adult hood" other then your education. if you continue to let pple step on u now it is only going to get worse and make ur high school experience hell. take a step back from the situation tht u are in, i am sure that u wouldnt like what u see. dont get so hung up on being a part of a crowd, start of with one or two true and honest pple tht u relate to and tht u really have fun with and who u could be urself around. in the end the groups will all break up anyhow. remember tht everyone has a uniqueness about them tht no one else has, and ur no different. flaunt ur good qualities, stand tall and be proud of everything u are. self confidence is the best way to attract pple. so be proud of who u are and recognize the pple who matter from the pple who dont