why should i ??????????

Jamiee,

you are in a truly bad spot. If it were me, I'd be watching out for myself. Nobody is going to take care of you and your needs except you in this relationship. It would seem to me that if this lady really wants a relationship with you, she'd be talking with her family about how they treat you.

You should not put yourself in a position of danger, fear or anxiety. The fact you say "it is doin' my head in." should be a real warning signal.

All I can say is keep yourself safe and that extends to your mental and emotional well-being as well as your physical state.

I feel for you.

Brian

I hope you have peace in your mind today, jamie.

up all night actually. worst manic day ever. can't sleep. she will never live with me nor be alone with me, so what's the point? i am useless. am tired. can't fight anymore. jamie. thx mate.

Can you still stay friends? Or is that too difficult? I would hope that you could. Maybe things will change in the future. And you will have time with her. Try not to let this get you down. Take it one day at a time. But protect yourself and your feelings. You are a great guy and don't deserve to be treated bad.

Take care Jamie, my friend...

Hugs, Karen

had a good chat with the therapist today. been shopping, got smokes 4 irene and i, seen bob on the bus, he dropped in for a bit. is doing better. me as well. just a bad couple of days. of to bed 4 some zzzzzzz. thx 4 all your support and care guys. love jamie.

Jamiee,

I was glad to hear you were going for a sleep - means you are coming to some conscious acceptance of what is and what needs to be happening. Stay safe Jamiee.

Jamie: I am glad to hear that you've had some sleep. Hopefully, it will provide some symptom relief for you. Here is my take on the whole situation and since I've been around since the beginning I feel strongly about this. Love, sharing, caring, helping each other, standing up for each other, leaning, supporting and every other emotion out there should be EQUALLY shared by the two individuals in a relationship. I realize that your lady has her own physical and emotional problems (not even counting her family), but so do you, Jamie. I have seen you give 200% of effort to this relationship. And ultimately, while I know you feel love towards your lady, look how sick this has made you.

This is clearly not right for you. I personally would love to see you have a restraining order out against each member of her family. And yes, this sounds very harsh. But all of this stress has continually compromised your health. And for you that should be the most important.

I have been reading a lot of Happy Bill's posts in the bipolar forum and how he honestly talks about finding a personal balance in his life that will make him well again. Paraphrasing here he talks about how he needs to eliminate unhealthy relationships from his life right now to get there. This doesn't need to be permanent, but he knows he needs time to heal and finish remaking himself into a healthier and stronger model - before returning to this aspect of his life again. I myself have found much wisdom in many of his thoughts. Perhaps this is something for you to consider as well.

Try to find just a little bit of Serenity in life my friend. You need the time and healthy space to make yourself feel well again.

Cass

this is killing me. i love her, fine and good, she loves me, fine, good. but i am not in love with her at the moment, and may never be, too much hatred has burned a hole in my heart. ok, she wants me as a bf, but with a carer, no way!! i hate this!!!!!!!!!! @#$%!!!!!!!!!! i will never be accepted by her family, never and i got this bit 1000000000% right. friends.......nah. oh !!!!!!!!!!
what 2 do, what 2 do. this sucks mega totally royally!!!!!!!!!! :-( jamie

you are not a failure, your a person who was put into an impossible situation. I don't think there is anything you could do to come out of this situation unscathed. And i agree 100% with the posts above, maybe its time to concentrate on YOU, its obvious that this relationship is tearing you apart, sometimes you have to just let it go. It seems that all the good that the relationship is doing for you is greatly outweighed by the harm and chaos it forces upon you. You are not a failure. You are a great person who despite you own problems always helps others out with theirs. I pray for peace for you.

thx geosojda, thx karen. appreciate your care and support, means a real lot. jamie