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Posted 10/24/2011 2:56 AM (GMT 0)

Hello Everyone:

My daughter told me about this website...she is 17yrs old and she considers this website as part of her family and she is always telling me to go on and be a part of the depression part of the website.  Right now I am trying to regroup.  My main problem I would say is my finances. I have so many bills and not enough money.  3 yrs ago, my job ended because the owner of the company died and I found a job that I love but it paid 12,000.00 LESS. The 3 yrs I have worked with the company, no raise, cut my hours and cut my pay. Now I recieve assistance for food. My daughter just had major surgery this month, My ex husband is 30,000.00 behind in child support, my house is cluttered..the more I type the worst I feel.  eyes I will just take it a day at a time. Thanks for listening to me vent. redface

 

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Posted 10/24/2011 3:04 AM (GMT 0)
Welcome to the forum. This was a good choice...there are a lot of great members here.

I'm sorry to hear about your circumstances. Does your workplace offer any kind of counseling services? Mine does for part-time and full-time associates, even if they are not enrolled in the company benefits. You may need to dig for that information, HR does not always know everything (I am an HR manager and I can tell you what others are like, yikes). If not, see if you can find community services that are free. They are out there, if you can spare the time to look. Counselors aren't just good for talking about your problems - they help to guide you back onto the right path toward achieving your goals.

How is your daughter doing after her surgery?

Do you have any friends or family that would be willing to help you out around the house? Maybe organize a yard sale with some friends/family - that would be a good activity to help clear out your home and provide you with some productive, social interaction and some extra cash.

I hope you continue to post here, and I wish you the best of luck. Sometimes living one day at a time is all we need to make it through.
Posted 10/24/2011 3:56 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks for all the advice/suggestions. My house isn't that messy to where I can have a yard sale...I wish I was more organized but I think I will use this website to get on track. My daughter is doing GREAT! The doctor said she should be in the hospital for 10-12 days and she was discharged after 5. She needs a lot of my time and support but I will be hones, I am tired and I do feel bad. I feel bad for venting about my problems. I don't really have any friends because I don't have time to hang out with people. I work plus I do a lot of volunteer work that I started in my community. I did have a best friend but he married his ex wife for the 3rd time (how crazy is that) in the middle of us dating. He was open and honest about every thing so when it happened I was not shocked...just surprised. The only person that I have to talk to is a neighbor that is crazy about me and he is 33 years older. I have NO desire to date him.
As far as counseling at my job...I don't trust anyone there...it's so sad. In order for me to go on vacation or time off work I have to find someone to cover for me. When my daughter had her surgery not only did I have to find my own coverage but my job called me 4 times on the day of the surgery and 10 times while I was off work. No one called to ask how my daughter was doing and when I came back to work everyone was like "I haven't seen you forever."
I am the one that holds others up and I just go in a corner to release my tears.
Well tomorrow is a new day. I just take it a day at a time.
Okay...I'm not that much into football but did you see the Colts got beat baaaaad tonight! OUCH!
Posted 10/24/2011 10:25 AM (GMT 0)
geaux Saints!!!! It was so hard to watch, that even my hubby went to bed. We live outside New orleans...poor colts

Anyway, welcome here...we're here to support each other and laugh at our own expense. Most areas offer free mental health clinics w counselors and a psychiatrist and even help you get you meds. I'd be feeling down if I was dealing with all that. We all carry some heavy burdens here but at least , for a little whil we get to lay them down when we are here

Keep posting
Maggie
Posted 10/24/2011 10:34 AM (GMT 0)
my healing compassionate prayers to you. jamie
Posted 10/24/2011 12:48 PM (GMT 0)
Welcome to our forum. I am so glad tht you have joined us. There is a depression site that is free that you might be interested in. It is callede moodgym.

http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome.

Google it and see what you think. A few of the members here find it helpful.

Also your local community mental health may operate on a sliding scale. That means they base their fees on your income. You can get cheaper sessions that way. You might want to look into that. Did you get a medicaid card? Social services may give you one since you have a young daughter under 18.

I hope that you find what works for you. You have joined in at a wonderful place. The members here are very kind and understanding. I am glad that your daughter talked you into joining us.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 10/24/2011 1:53 PM (GMT 0)
Maybe find out about a group called women infant children, they can help with food,
also maybe look into your state and see if you can get SSI for your daughter
due to her surgery, rules are different in each state but look into that...
I hope your daughter continues to improve and many well wishes to her, my daughter had open heart surgery when she
was just 12 days old, she is now 20yrs old and doing good, so Prayers for your daughter that sure can add
to your depression..Hope you can find counseling or at least look into what the others said...
Well wishes and Prayers to you and your daughter...
Keep us posted as we do care...
Posted 10/24/2011 2:56 PM (GMT 0)
I am sorry, I forgot. Well wishes for your daughter. And prayers...

Hugs, Karen
Posted 10/25/2011 3:33 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks every one for the encouragement. My daughter went back to school today for the first time in two weeks and she asked the school if she could leave after half a day. The school allowed it and my daughter called me at work 4 to 5 times just wanting to talk. I talked to her for about 3-5 minutes each time but I felt so bad that I could spend more time with her. I promised her that I would buy her a brand new bed by Nov 1st and I don't think I will have the money. Please pray that I will have the funds to get her and her sister beds. My daughter recently had her colon removed and had a really bad accident in her bed so I made a promise that I would get her a bed. Okay, I'm just venting...I will be so excited if I can get the twin beds. Please pray that I will be able to get the beds. Thank you everyone for the prayers. Today I got off work early and I was able to go home and start dinner early. My kids were so happy because I cooked the dinner of their choice. We had Fried Chicken which I have not cooked in over a year (don't care for fried foods), rice with mixed veg. corn bread, mac and cheese. That was the good news for the day.
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Posted 10/25/2011 11:51 AM (GMT 0)
HI Smile1,

Keep your eyes and ears open. Check craig's list and ebay for beds. Often you can find them cheap. Delivery is another story. My husband says when you buy furniture, you can often talk them down in price. Make them an offer if you don't have enough money. There is a huge mark up on furniture. He went to continental rental and bought a bed. Talked them down from 750.00 to 500.00. Plus got senior citizen discount. lol... But yeah, you can haggle with them and get the prices cheaper.

I hope you are able to get your daughter a new bed. Keeping you in my prayers.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 10/25/2011 1:43 PM (GMT 0)
If you are part of a church family, they are always looking for ways to help, not so much cash, but I'll bet someon has a coupla single beds around. Or try Salvation Army, explain your daughter's medical condition..praying for you and some beds

Maggie
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