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Posted 11/27/2011 10:30 PM (GMT 0)
Sorry, I know this is a bit of re-post, but I am freaking out. Tomorrow will be day 7 of my new job. Because I started on a Wednesday and because of Thanksgiving, I've only worked two three day weeks. I don't know how long I am supposed to stay in 'training' (I'm shadowing a co-worker who doesn't know either), how much they expect of me, etc. I already feel like a failure! I know that's not a good attitude to have, but I can't help it.

I've been freaking out the whole weekend. I visited my aunt and uncle and tried to have fun, but always had this nagging 'you're going to fail on Monday' thought. Now I'm back at my apartment. Alone. Freaking out. I should be grocery shopping as there is zero food in my house but I'm crying and spazzing. I don't know how to make this better. I just want to succeed at my job. When all is said and done I think it will be interesting work, but I just can't shake this heavy feeling. I feel like my heart is going a mile a minute and I feel like I'm going to barf.

Help

Trish
Posted 11/27/2011 11:02 PM (GMT 0)
Hello, Blue Moon, please permit me to try to calm you a little about your job and what is going to be expected of you.

1. Most companies (if they are sizeable) are going to have personnel training for new employees. They know that new folks don't know the "ropes", so they bring in their good people to help people get off on the right foot on the job.

2. You're not going to be expected to know the job in two or three weeks, Blue Moon. Sometimes, employers will tell you that it takes five years to train an employee fully in all aspects of the work with the company.  Don't hesitate to ask questions; it shows you're interested in learning.

3. If, for some unbelievable reason, you do not encounter training; and if you are given anything like a hard time, you should get out. That's not the kind of organization you want to work for in the first place.

4. If you can calm yourself, by deep breathing, restful thoughts, you'll be much more ready to be taught the work during the next few months--not days--ahead, Blue Moon.

5. Your conscientiousness is a very good clue that you will do well once you have been properly taught. Remember that; they're going to teach you how to do the work. So RELAX and let things fall into line as they will if you let them.

6. For tonight, try to keep your diet light--a big salad with mild dressing, only water to drink; don't eat sugar, drink tea or coffee during the remainder of the evening. Tomorrow morning, have protein of some type for breakfast; it will stabilize your moods better than having carbohydrates will, and you'll feel stronger longer during the morning hours at your job. Watch your diet, Blue Moon. Stay away from the caffeine, sugar, heavy starch diet. Get good protein and fish.

7. Read something calming tonight:your bible, other meditative material or poetry--something to get your mind off the fear, which is really unrealistic.

Take care and let everyone know how you are tomorrow night.

Remember, they're going to teach you.

I.G.

Post Edited (It's Genetic) : 11/27/2011 4:11:23 PM (GMT-7)

Posted 11/28/2011 12:04 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Bluemoon,

I agree with IG, try not to stress over this too much. If they are any type of a good company, they will realize that they havent trained you enough. I worked two days in retail and had to go on the till alone. And alone on my whole shift. I was scared to death. But I did it. Not too much problem other than I ran out of register tape and had to call a manager because I didn't know how to do it. Luckily she came in time, but I had a customer using a credit card who got sick of waiting and left without getting his food. I felt bad for him. I couldn't do that transaction without the register tape. I even got left with no tape once. Finally somebody found a roll. I was so happy. On Newyears Eve my coworker called in sick. That was fun. This is a small gasstation and convenience store. I did over ten grand on that shift. Working by myself. My feet did hurt at the end of the night, but I was so busy that it went by really fast. You can always do what you have to.

I don't know why I told you all that. Just rambling on. I liked my job. I kind of miss it. The thing that I liked the most was the achievement of earning my own money. I miss that. It was hard work, but it was fun...

Deep breathing tonight as IG said. Smelling the roses and blowing out the candles. In through the nose and out through the mouth. Think relaxing thoughts. Know that tomorrow will be an adventure in itself. You will be fine. Have confidence.

One thing I will note. I had a manager when I started that said my till kept coming up short. Well, then we got a new manager who wanted to talk to me in the back. Boy was I scared. She actually thanked me for doing such a good job. She said when I worked, she didn't worry about things. that made me feel so good. And to think I was so scared. The other manager got fired for stealing. lol...

So you never know. Just do the best you can and keep trying. Don't worry. It will all work out for you.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 11/28/2011 5:20 AM (GMT 0)
sending healing and compassionate vibes your way. jamie
Posted 11/28/2011 5:09 PM (GMT 0)
Hi MrsStevens,

Welcome to the HW depression forum!!! I am so glad that you have joined us. Do feel free to start an introductory thread about yourself if you would like. That way we could get to know you better. But if you aren't comfortable with that, it is okay. There are a lot who prefer not to.

I hope you are feeling well. Your post doesn't indicate that you wouldn't be. It was very supportive and I thank you for that.

Keep posting, I think you will like it here. There is a fabulous bunch of members here.

Take care,
Have a great day

Hugs, Karen

Bluemoon, Do let us know how work went.  I am sure that it wasn't as bad as anticipated...  I hope it went well...

Posted 11/29/2011 2:54 AM (GMT 0)
Hi. I made it through the day ! I actually got a lot of good training today, which was GREAT. There was one co-worker in particular who I thought about saying 'thank you' to because she was SO helpful and explained everything in a way that I understood. I don't know why, but when she told me things I feel like I remembered them better.

Later in the day, the guy I'm shadowing helped me go through some of the processes I need to know (with me on the keyboard). It made me feel a lot better.

I packed a nice lunch for myself for today, and am trying to find the energy to make another one tonight for tomorrow. I'm actually feeling OK right now. Could have been the beer I had with dinner lol - but I think part of it is... I don't know. I'm not going to question it !


Thank you all for your kind words and encouragement. It really makes me feel a lot better !!!
Posted 11/29/2011 3:00 AM (GMT 0)
That sounds really terrific, BlueMoon878, I'm so glad you're off to a good start.

Expect a little reaction from the beer. People who have depression cannot drink, Blue Moon; it makes depression worse, so please drink plenty of water in the next day or two to offset the beer. Otherwise, you will grow more comfortable in your new job environment as every day passes.

Do you really like the work a lot? Hope so. Let us know how things
go for the rest of this week.

Thanks for keeping us updated.

I.G.
Posted 11/29/2011 2:55 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks MrsStevens,

It is hard. Especially around the holidays. It is so encouraging that you want to help others. This forum survives on that. So you are in the rifght place.

I hope that this is a good day for you and everybody else.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 11/29/2011 2:56 PM (GMT 0)
Bluemoon,

I am so happy for you!!! I am glad that you have somebody to help you learn. I have found with jobs, some people teach better than others. I am not a good trainer myself. I get too frustrated...

Keep us posted.

Hugs, Karen
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