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Posted 1/2/2012 4:08 AM (GMT 0)
Hello all, I was wondering and I think I am going to do this; but I think I need to cut off all forms of communication between my ex-husband and myself. He is married now to the woman who he had an affair with. It hurts me every time I talk to him and its starting to hurt even more because emotions and feelings are coming up about our marriage. Believe it or not we are very good friends now. I don't know why? that is but we are good friends. I am coping with everything that he has done to me and believe me it wasn't pretty. So my gut feeling is telling me to cut off communication for good and leave him with his happy home life with his new wife. Thank you, Lisa ~
Posted 1/2/2012 1:16 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Lisa,

I think you have a good plan. IF communicating with him is causing you discomfort, do cut all forms. At least for awhile until you are stonger. Sometimes we have to do this in our lives. Change our atmosphere. I had to cut ties with my mother when I was younger, it made me stronger. She was always bringing me down. So give it a try and see if it helps. You can always resume communication if you have to.

Best wishes, stay strong.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 1/2/2012 3:20 PM (GMT 0)
Unless there are children involved then by all means completely move on with your life. If there are kids in the picture then limit any communication to topics that directly involve them.
Posted 1/2/2012 6:26 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks you guys for the comments, well there are no kids involved (thank goodness!) So I think I will cut off all forms of communication. The only problem is, is that my ex-husband is usually the one to call me.
So I guess I need to talk to him regarding this issue. I think this would be best. He lives out of my state now with his wife. I don't need to hear everytime they are in town, too depressing. Okay I will have a talk with my ex-hubby then. Thank you all! Lisa
Posted 1/2/2012 8:44 PM (GMT 0)
all the best lisa, stay strong, jamie
Posted 1/2/2012 8:56 PM (GMT 0)
Well guys, I just left a message for my ex-husband and I basically told him that I needed some time apart atleast for a long while till I get this path to healing going. Thanks all for your support! Have a great rest of the holidays! Lisa
Posted 1/2/2012 10:43 PM (GMT 0)
You can always have contact when you are feeling stronger if you choose to do so. I think you made a good move by doing this. Work on you.

Hugs, Karen
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