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Posted 5/8/2012 1:01 AM (GMT 0)
Hi I'm a 17 year old lad and well this is my first time of using any sort of online forum so I'm a bit nervous if I'm doing the right thing but I really feel like I need help. Two years ago my parents finally split up after an on-going saga which saw my dad have two affairs and was violent at home and that was obviously hard to deal with, however I felt like I managed to get through that well. This year what has sparked my depression is a girl at school who I fell in love with, led me on and then revealed that she likes a friend of mine. I know reading that sounds like a petty high school drama but I've been on medication for a few months now and it has not helped and I'm having more and more thoughts of ending my life which is horrible but they just creep up on me. I am unable to sleep untill about 4 or 5 am and I have A-levels looming yet I feel no motivation whatsoever. These people I have absolutely trusted and I feel like friends of mine have just let me down so much that it makes me so frightened about who I can trust and it has made me feel so worthless. I completely understand if people reading this think that this is stupid but I guess this is a desperate cry out for help so if it is not too much trouble I'd love some advice.

Post Edited (PMA) : 5/7/2012 7:10:10 PM (GMT-6)

Posted 5/8/2012 1:40 AM (GMT 0)
Hi PMA. You are NOT worthless. You may be going through a difficult time but you have a long life ahead of you and, I suspect, a lot to offer. If the girl went for someone else, then it wasn't meant to be. There are, as they say, other fish in the pond. Many of us guys have been led on by girls at some point, me included. But now I am married to a great gal. So, although it hurts at the time, there's light at the end of the tunnel. You might benefit from some counseling. I recommend it. It has helped me. And try to focus on those A levels, as best you can. Welcome to our group here at HW. We are here for you any time. (By the way, my folks were divorced too, and it was pretty acrimonious; that ain't easy either, but time does have a way of healing....)

Post Edited (medved) : 5/7/2012 7:44:19 PM (GMT-6)

Posted 5/8/2012 1:46 AM (GMT 0)
Hi PMA,

I think the thing we have to come and realize is that we can't depend on other people to make us happy and always be there. Because a huge percentage of the time, they aren't or can't. Or just don't understand that we need help. But when you learn to be there for yourself, youv'e got it made. Learn to love yourself. Continue the fantastic work at school. Get that under your belt and then go from there. Go on to college. You will eventually meet the right girl for you. I am sorry she used you. It happens to all of us at one time or another. I don't mean to sound trivial. I know, it hurts. But like I say, we all go through it. Some more than once.

I would let your doc know that you aren't feeling better on your meds. You may need an adjustment. Or another kind. We want to feel good most of the time, and we should. That with counseling should help you. It has really helped me and many of the members here. Keep posting. I hope that you feel better soon.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 5/8/2012 4:13 AM (GMT 0)
Hey guys thanks a lot for responding :) Ye I completely understand the fact that there are other girls out there but I'm struggling so much with getting over this girl and because she is now interested in a friend of mine I find myself constantly asking why I wasn't good enough and if i'll ever like another girl in the same way. Its been a bit of an on-going thing through out this year of school and there has been a lot of gossip and I just feel very let down and hurt by those closest to me. I'm also constantly fretting over what this girl and guy are up to and I find myself running over scenarios in my head about what they could be doing, is this normal?
Posted 5/8/2012 11:48 AM (GMT 0)
It is most likely normal, but it isn't healthy. It can cause you to draw conclusions that just aren't so. I would try to get my mind off of them. Find an interest that you like. Work on that. You can't change what happened. But you never know what the future holds. Try not to obsess over this. Do your own thing. You will get a lot of respect that way.

Best wishes for a good day.

Hugs, Karen
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