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Posted 6/11/2012 7:36 PM (GMT 0)
I have had anxiety for about a year and a half now and I have had off and non differing depression since my first year of high school, (I am an upperclassman in college now).  All of my depression differs but recently it has been centered around the same thing.. That I am not what i should be.  My anxiety has lost me my position of an officer candidate in the United States Marine Corps.  This is something that has been my number one dream since i was 7 years old.  And since it has happened I just have the feeling that this will be a regret that will stay with me to my grave. My depression hit the worst when that happened, and some time before that, my friend was murdered.  I have also been having some trouble with my friends and the girls I date.  I like to show people that nice guys still exist, and i will stop what I am doing to help any of my friends.  On dates I try to be the perfect gentleman, but no matter how things go, in the end I get completely screwed over and that has been hitting me hard.

I talk to a therapist regularly for my anxiety but I only sometimes bring up the depression.  But does anyone on here have any advice on how to deal with this type of thing?  I try to stay away from perscription drugs for both of these conditions.

Thanks everyone,

Mike

Posted 6/11/2012 10:10 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Mike,

The best thing you could do is talk to your therapist about the depression too. They will advise you as to what to do. You may need medication, you may not. I know that you don't want to take it, but sometimes we have a chemical embalance and the only thing that can help us is the proper chemicals. (ie medication)...

There is nothing saying you can return back the the Marine Corps. You need to get yourself balanced. Can you be in the service while on medications? Just curious...

There are other paths that you could follow too. Was there anything else in life that you thought could possibly be a carreer? Like a second best choice? I think it would be healthy for you to set small goals and try to accomplish them.

I am glad that you are one of the "nice guys". It is good to know that some still exist. lol... There are a lot of wonderful people here on the forum. I think you will like it here.

It sounds as if your dream has gotten crushed, but there is more than one way to skin a cat. You can still work on goals. You can find other things in life that are pleasant and fun to do. Don't let this cause you to feel that it is all over because it isn't. There is always plan b. That is why I asked you your second favorite thing. Don't let this get you down. Do talk to your therapist and do continue to post. I hope that you feel better soon.

Karen
Posted 6/11/2012 10:48 PM (GMT 0)
Karen, thank you!

My therapist is pretty open about medication, she does not push it one way or another unless the patient, in her mind, desperately needs it. So so far I have stayed away from it.

As far as the Marine Corps goes, once the anxiety came into the open that was game over. I wont have another chance to do it. I am currently at my backup job as a business analyst for a defense company.

Unfortunately we are swamped there so while my mind is kept busy, I do not have any time for any sort of relaxation.

Thanks,
Mike
Posted 6/12/2012 12:57 AM (GMT 0)
What about practicing meditation? That is something (once learned) that you can do at anytime anywhere. It does program the mind to relax. Even just some meditation before you go to bed would help. I would do it in the morning too though if I were you. It will help you to stay focussed too.

It sounds like you have a very good therapist. I would let her know about the depression though.

keep posting...

Hugs, Karen
Posted 6/12/2012 1:33 AM (GMT 0)
I have tried relaxing breathing for my anxiety, I should try that for my depression.

Thanks!

Mike

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