getting my husband to understand?

I am very fortunate, my husband understands. But I know people like your husband, and no matter what he says or does, you still have to do what is right for you. Oh, and your print is very small on your post. I don't know why, but it could be hard for some to read.

I hope you can get your husband to understand. Maybe don't verbalize when you feel bad, but do so when you feel good, so that he only sees the good. I don't want to hear you have stopped taking your meds.

Hugs, Karen

Hi Jessid, I know exactly what u are going thru with, or better said, without your husband. Mine is the same. He is selfish and selfcentered and narrow minded when it comes to mental illness. Like you said: a charactor flaw. My husband does take zoloft and has for 9 years. I was very frank before we were married 9 years ago that he needed meds. HIs doctor agreed. He still is a jerk but a better one. I am doing my best to get ready for a 2 week vacation. He doesnt have a clue as to what kind of planning it takes. I wish you well Jessid and hope you feel lots of hugs from your friends here!......Cathy

hi jessid,

just wanted to add my thoughts to the other ones expressed here.

i have been dealing with a bad depression over the past year. in my experience, some friends "get it" and want to be supportive and are willing to listen, even when what i say might seem nutty, and even if am doing poorly for several days in a row.

other friends do not get it. they do not want to hear when i am down, and are not willing to listen. this was a great disappointment to me. some of them were otherwise my best friends. it took me a while to accept that they were who they are. they are missing the "compassion gene". but that doesn't mean i still couldn't be friends with them. just accepted them as they were.

i am not in a primary relationship so don't really know what that is like - the person closest to you (your husband) not able to get it.

but i have often heard you can't get all your needs met by just one person.

i hope you are able to make progress with your husband's understanding, but if not, please know there are other people (especially here) that can listen to anything you want to share.

thanks,