Posting after a long time, very lonely

Karen, carpal tunnel can be felt in the arms but usually in the front of the forearm and down to your elbow. It mainly causes problems with your hands though. Feelings of numbness, stiffness, pins and needles feelings, pain. The cortizone shots "pinch" a bit as they insert the needle in your wriste but it is definitely tolerable and well worth doing if you are in a lot of pain, which I was. I couldn't do much with my hands and I couldn't even drive so was stuck in the house a lot.

I think you can only have 3 shots a year if the pain comes back.

My hands are not perfect and will probably be this way. Hoping the pain doesn't return too soon. If they can't cure it with injections then I will have to resort to the surgery, but i will wait and see.

I hope this gives you an idea of what this problem is like.

Take care of yourself. I haven't posted in so long I hope that you are well and surviving this heat blast we are having this summer.

Hugs,

Aurora

Thanks for your reply. It is good to get connected again to this forum that I have been away from for so long. I do feel bad about my friend and sent her an ecard saying i was so sorry but I will just wait to see if she responds. You are right that people come in and out of our lives.

A little about myself, I have been divorced forever and have 2 sons. My younger son has a girlfriend who he is very involved with. It seems lately he pays no attention to me as he is always with her and has a very busy job. He likes being with her family as she has a large family and they always invite him out with them. I worry that if they get married he will want to spend all the holidays with her family and will forget about me. My other son is very good to me and does take good care of me. But holidays with the two of us seems so sad. My family consist of me and my boys. I suffer terribly from loneliness although I have made an effort to get out and join things. I play mah jongg every Monday, do volunteer work and take classes. I have made one new good friend this past year. But I can count on one hand the number of friends I have to do things with. My married friends aren't available on weekends because of being with husbands. I often spend my weekends alone or my older son comes and stays with me to keep me company and help with errands and things. Also, summer is a hard time for me. My friends are all so busy and I don't have enough to do.

I guess I sound pretty pathetic when I read what I have just written. I am looking for other groups to join but there isn't much I haven't tried. I think I need to go back to church and possibly get involved with one of the church groups.

Sorry for being so long winded and sitting on the pity pot. When I am busy and seeing people I have no problems with the loneliness. It is being home alone after 4 PM that gets to me as it is so quiet and there is no one to talk to. You can only call a friend just so many times.

Thanks for listening. Hope we can stay in touch.

Aurora

I can understand why you enjoy your solitude. I had a very big family growing up so it is hard to adjust to be alone. My oldest lived with me until he was 37 and I felt he needed to get out on his own so he knew how to pay bills and learn not to depend on me as I won't be here forever.

I still haven't gotten used to living alone, try as hard as I am.

I am sure you are right that going back to church and signing up for even one thing will get me more involved than I want to be but it is worth a try.

I have had many dogs over the years. All poodles since I have asthma. I lost my last one a year ago and have decided not to have another dog even though they are such good company. I am hoping to sell my house and move to a small condo so I don't know if dogs will be allowed. I will have to wait and see but you are right, they are such good company.

Thank you for corresponding with me. It has helped me to have someone to talk to and I appreciate your kindness.

Aurora

I really appreciate you answering me. It makes me feel so much better when I know someone is willing to take the time to write. It is hard when you move to establish yourself in a new community. I also do volunteer work and I play mah jongg on Mondays and sign up for lots of classes in hopes of meeting some new people.

It is true that I feel the loneliness since my son moved to his own place. He lives about ten minutes from me and he is very helpful doing things for me around the house and driving me to do errands. Problem was he was difficult to live with so we are both better off on our own. And it is easier getting along with him not having him in the house all the time.

Do you have any children? Often you can meet new people through your children's classroom parents.

I can only offer the advice to sign up for different things you like.

Does your library have a book club? If you are near a big high school or some type of college you can always take classes.

I wish you the best and hope we can correspond again sometime.

Aurora